Hi everyone. I have just joined this forum, and thought I would just tell my story. I have been looking after my mother for the past 20 months. She is nearly 75yrs old and was previously living on her own in Scotland. My dad died some 16 years ago. She was never an easy person to get on with, so it was with some reluctance that I moved her to England to stay with my family. She was at that point just a bit forgetful. Since then I see a very different person who is living in my house. She accuses my daughter of ''taking'' things out of her room. She even accused my 3 yr old grandson of ''losing'' one of her shoes in a very threatening and aggresive manner. She constantly moves her things in her room, then forgets where they are and accuses that someone has taken them. When I try and explain to her that it is herself moving things and forgetting where she put them, she says that I am the one who is trying to make her think she is going mad. She is making my life a misery as she wants to be in my company all of the time. She sits in front of the tv , but takes nothing in, and offers no input to any conversation. She resents any other family member coming to the house, especially my grandchildren, who at 3yrs and nearly 2yrs should not have to witness this behaviour. The strange thing is that i used to be a nurse and was a very tolerant and caring person, but now, I hate to say it, but I sometimes wish that my mother was dead, as she has no purpose to her life, and seems to bring a depressing cloud in my home. I have other brothers and sisters, but they are very reluctant to have her stay at their homes as they know how ''nasty'' she can be. I sometimes feel that i hate her, and feel ashamed for feeling that way, but i cant see any other solution than to put my mum into a home, which I know I would feel guilty about.