Norman said:
It is only just over 2 weeks since I lost my Peg.
I am lost,lonely and very very unhappy.
After almost 60 years of marriage,but having known each other for about 63 years it is like being cut in half.
What comfort have others found to get through thi awful time?
Norman
Dear Norman, my heart goes out to you...I can't say "I know how you feel" because I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like to lose your soul mate.
It happened to my gramps, and it happened to my great-uncle as well...and I remember how Uncle Harry used to say how hard it was. Memories everywhere, an empty house, no one to talk to, and long difficult days after a routine of caring which needed to be filled. I know he used to say he was ok in company...his son and daughter in law spent a lot of time with him, and he was relatively quick to take up some little routines again after Aunty Jean had died...shopping in town, going to football matches, visiting his sisters.
But I know he was heartbroken...he did all these things but he always used to say "it's not the same, but she would have wanted me to do them because we used to enjoy them together".
What I can say is that, now that Uncle Harry has gone too, and gramps, I know there is an almighty great gaping hole, and I miss them horribly. I'm ok during the day, I'm busy, I'm working, I have a routine...but it's hard, and the nights are difficult.
What it must be like for you, without your Peg, I daren't imagine...I don't have any advice really, Norman, and wouldn't presume myself capable to give you any...People are different and need different things at different times. And it's very early days yet. Do you have friends and family close by on whom you could call? Are there any hobbies you used to be interested in but maybe didn't have time for while oyu were a full-time carer to Peg?
I don't know if that would be any help...I don't know if you feel like company, or pursuing hobbies...I can imagine it must be an effort to try and do anything with that feeling at the back of your mind that Peg is no longer there.
Take care and know that your friends on TP are thinking of you. Peg will always be with you.
Very best wishes,
Tina