It's almost 18 months ago that Mum passed from Alzheimers .most of the time I tend to think "Mums not here at the moment but she will be back soon" and then I get moments of reality that hit me hard like , missing Mum phoning each afternoon to ask if my son had a good day at school . I also struggle with the issue that dear Mum looked so very different towards the end ,in fact she didn't look like my Mum : (
I also feel that Mum and Dad we're let down a lot ,they were never encouraged to talk about the Alzheimers and how they felt .Once Mum was diagnosed which was 3 years before she passed ,it just never got talked about .They liked the GP but I feel that they should have been given opportunities to ask questions or just say how they were feeling .I find myself having so many unanswered questions like , "how could The Alzheimers destroy Mums brain so quickly" "how and why did she deteriorate in just a few months". "before she went into hospital with a chest infection ,she was still walking,talking. Making Dad tea all be it with a few mistakes and then 3 months later I fought to get her back home where we nursed her until she passed.I feel that hospital was not really geared up for people with Alzheimers and I do believe that part of a Mums rapid decline was due to the hospital environment .There was no stimulation whatsoever so the parts of Mums brain that were still functioning before hospital were just neglected in hospital.The only stimulation she had was when we visited every afternoon ,we would read to her,take in photos and talk about things Mum was familiar with .Even when Mum was still continent they would make her wait so long she ended up having to wet herself . I know her Alzheimers was getting worse but I can't help but think that the lack of a stimulating environment made things worse and possibly accelerated things .
I feel so sad that the Alzheimers robbed Mum of her life
Sorry for waffling on so much ,I think I'm starting to feel things now as before I was so busy helping look after Mum and supporting Dad that I was functioning but not able to feel much .
It might seem a strange thing to ask but have other folk here had a loved one with Alzheimers who's illness progressed so rapidly like Mums ?
Thank you all for your support
Lottie x
I also feel that Mum and Dad we're let down a lot ,they were never encouraged to talk about the Alzheimers and how they felt .Once Mum was diagnosed which was 3 years before she passed ,it just never got talked about .They liked the GP but I feel that they should have been given opportunities to ask questions or just say how they were feeling .I find myself having so many unanswered questions like , "how could The Alzheimers destroy Mums brain so quickly" "how and why did she deteriorate in just a few months". "before she went into hospital with a chest infection ,she was still walking,talking. Making Dad tea all be it with a few mistakes and then 3 months later I fought to get her back home where we nursed her until she passed.I feel that hospital was not really geared up for people with Alzheimers and I do believe that part of a Mums rapid decline was due to the hospital environment .There was no stimulation whatsoever so the parts of Mums brain that were still functioning before hospital were just neglected in hospital.The only stimulation she had was when we visited every afternoon ,we would read to her,take in photos and talk about things Mum was familiar with .Even when Mum was still continent they would make her wait so long she ended up having to wet herself . I know her Alzheimers was getting worse but I can't help but think that the lack of a stimulating environment made things worse and possibly accelerated things .
I feel so sad that the Alzheimers robbed Mum of her life
Sorry for waffling on so much ,I think I'm starting to feel things now as before I was so busy helping look after Mum and supporting Dad that I was functioning but not able to feel much .
It might seem a strange thing to ask but have other folk here had a loved one with Alzheimers who's illness progressed so rapidly like Mums ?
Thank you all for your support
Lottie x