Can I rant?
Dear carer, yes I know you've known my nan for a whole eight months, and I'm sure you do care about her, maybe even love her. But when I tell you she would be horrified that I am sitting by her bed watching her die, please accept that as the truth. I have known her for my whole 47 years, and not once in that time did she spend any time with the dying, she was a great believer in saying your peice and leaving them to it. And no she wouldn't like me to tell her about my day, she never wanted to hear it before so why should now be any different.
And no I wouldn't enjoy going home and having a facial or a large glass of wine. I know you mean well but please leave us both in peace for a few hours. I can cope, I do not need your constant unnecessary intrusions. If you need to do mouthcare or reposition her then please say so, other wise please give us a bit more space.
Today I'm going to tally how many people pop in 'just to check'. It feels like she is an exhibit!