Hi I apologise now, there must be umpteen threads with the same or similar. I found out today that my nan is deteriorating - she has not been diagnosed. She has 3 son's who care a great and still lives with my grandad, who is not at his best either and has had quite a few heart problems over the last couple of years. Last week my uncle dropped nan in to Asda and said he would return for her, when he did, she was still walking around 1 hour later with an empty trolley. I know they are not cooking meals and refuse any help. My dad and uncles have mentioned before that they do not want them in a home. He says that they need to keep their money! Their house is a mess and communicating with them is very hard. 5 minutes after talking about something she will forget. I would love to take my son, who is 5, to see them more but I feel it is not right for him. The first problem is getting my nan to the doctors - she won't want to go. The second is getting my family to accept that they need to think about my nan and grandad's welfare and not about themselves. Any support, own experiences or advice would be much appreciated.