Hi My name is Stuart from the UK, and my wifes' 78 year old mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimers. We had suspected for some time as the conversations were rather difficult and frequently went off at a tangent and often didn't make sense. My wife and I live close to her, but my wifes' brothers all live some distance away and so either can't find the time to keep an eye on their mum, or don't think she needs keeping an eye on. She has several times now been taken home by the police because she forgot where she parked her car, so we think she does warrant some concern. The reason why I joined this forum is that my wife is finding looking after her mum a real strain and is suffering from depression and has several times threatened suicide as a result, but will not seek help. Also her mother does not think she needs looking after, so they are always arguing over things. This is causing a strain for me as I get it all when she returns. What I am hoping to find is some advice as to how we can find my mother-in-law some care so my wife doesn't have to be the only carer. Sorry for rambling on, and for not using actual names above, but I'm not sure how my wife would react if she knew I was posting here.