My wife Jo was diagnosed with Alzheimer's back in November last year at the age of 52, We had been trying to get her diagnosed for over 12 months with the 1st Covid lockdown happening 4 days before her appointment was due at the memory clinic. I'm 46 and I have some experience with this disease as my dad passed away in May last year because of it.
I am dreading the future, I have been trying to process it all for the last 6 months and I don't know what to do. I am trying to get her moved back to where she grew up to be closer to her family and friends to get more support, but because of the financial difficulties we got into before she was diagnosed (she was unexpectedly out of work for 2 years) I am struggling to get a mortgage.
I know that she is going to get worse and I know that I am going to eventually have to make a choice between work and caring for her and I don't know if I can give up my job. I know I can't financially and I am worried her family are going to try and push me in that direction. They have already expressed that they don't want her to go into a home.
I just feel that my life is on hold now and I feel selfish and guilty for thinking that.
I have done some of the practical stuff PIP, LPA's etc but I am struggling with everything else.
I am dreading the future, I have been trying to process it all for the last 6 months and I don't know what to do. I am trying to get her moved back to where she grew up to be closer to her family and friends to get more support, but because of the financial difficulties we got into before she was diagnosed (she was unexpectedly out of work for 2 years) I am struggling to get a mortgage.
I know that she is going to get worse and I know that I am going to eventually have to make a choice between work and caring for her and I don't know if I can give up my job. I know I can't financially and I am worried her family are going to try and push me in that direction. They have already expressed that they don't want her to go into a home.
I just feel that my life is on hold now and I feel selfish and guilty for thinking that.
I have done some of the practical stuff PIP, LPA's etc but I am struggling with everything else.