Hang On in There, Girl!
Hi optocarol. I feel for your great frustration with your OH's weird behavior, but if he were his old self, I'd bet that he would probably be horrified too.
Please, I beg of you, hang on to what is left of your sense of humor. It will come in so handy in your joint journey through the dementia maze.
Talking Point is a wonderful pressure valve' and most of the long term users have had a good rant, and found enormous support from others.
I have had to discontinue the use of trousers for O.H., because he can no longer stand, or move unaided; and it's impossible to pull his trousers up for him, whilst trying to support him in a standing position. Same with P.J. bottoms.
On one occasion, he had filled his incontinence pad, underneath the trousers and pants; the ensuing contortions needed to replace the offending item, clean him up and, ideally, restore him to his usual glory would require the skill an Olympic gymnast.
It would have taken a heart of stone, not to see the funny side of of the resulting pile-up.