Hi BE,
Another day in dementialand. Yesterday my husband was finishing his lunch when we arrived. He had a lovely bowl of apple pie and ice cream. His plate with a few left over chips and the remnants of fish was till on his table. He pulled the plate back over towards him and started spreading the melting ice cream on a chip. No amount of coaxing could stop him so we left him to it with a rye smile on our faces, a bit like looking at an indulged child. Then his carer said " I wonder what that tastes like" and my husband turned to him and said "try one". Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday had been really bad days for him, no talking, charging around, all in all not in a good place. Yesterday and today fine. Is it the heat?
It really is difficult when even the most simple, basic knowledge goes. Our 18month old grandson knows what to do with a spoon, his granddad does not know what it is let alone what to do with it. So very hard to watch, so hard to accept.
Like Pross I can now accept and smile, a very weak smile but non the less a smile. It is surprising what is left of my husband at the moment and we manage our visits around what there is. When dealing on my own with this at home it was so horrendous and unlike you I did not have a family and job to contend with.
I raise my hat to you BE and everyone else having to juggle everything and deal with a loved one with dementia. I wish I could say it will get better but then you would all know I was lying.
Jay xx
Another day in dementialand. Yesterday my husband was finishing his lunch when we arrived. He had a lovely bowl of apple pie and ice cream. His plate with a few left over chips and the remnants of fish was till on his table. He pulled the plate back over towards him and started spreading the melting ice cream on a chip. No amount of coaxing could stop him so we left him to it with a rye smile on our faces, a bit like looking at an indulged child. Then his carer said " I wonder what that tastes like" and my husband turned to him and said "try one". Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday had been really bad days for him, no talking, charging around, all in all not in a good place. Yesterday and today fine. Is it the heat?
It really is difficult when even the most simple, basic knowledge goes. Our 18month old grandson knows what to do with a spoon, his granddad does not know what it is let alone what to do with it. So very hard to watch, so hard to accept.
Like Pross I can now accept and smile, a very weak smile but non the less a smile. It is surprising what is left of my husband at the moment and we manage our visits around what there is. When dealing on my own with this at home it was so horrendous and unlike you I did not have a family and job to contend with.
I raise my hat to you BE and everyone else having to juggle everything and deal with a loved one with dementia. I wish I could say it will get better but then you would all know I was lying.
Jay xx