My sister HAS managed to stop me seeing my mum. It's a mess.
Hello
I typed in google search 'My sister has stopped me seeing my mum,' and thankfully this site came up and I'm grateful for all the comments on what to do but I'm not sure any of them will work for me. I've contact the SW but got no where, I dont want to see a lawyer. I am 58 years old, married with two successful kids. I've always had a wonderful relationship with my mum which has irked my sister throughout the years but it wasnt really anything to address. She's never bothered much with my mum and in fact she has said in the past she cant really stand her. Things changed 3 years ago when my step father died leaving my mother very well off and from that point life has been hell. My mother was at the early stages of dementia and her head was easily turned, she was delighted to finally get some attention from my sister. Cutting a long story short my mum's sister and mine get on well they have always been good friends with each other. They joined forces to have me put out. I was very confused and hurt especially as my mum didn't back me up. I was distraught to receive a lawyers letter asking for the bank passwords. All I can think of is they wanted me out because of the money. They changed my mums phone number and then they moved her in with my sister. My sister hangs up when I phone. I have only managed to speak to my mum 3 times last year when she phoned me, while my sister was out. She said she didnt want to rock the boat because they would put her in a home. I learned yesterday, through facebook, that she is now in a home and I learned today that my daughter, son and I have been barred from visiting her at the home by instruction from my aunt (the POA). How can anyone ever think that splitting up a mother and daughter is the correct thing to do? How can they say that a grand daughter and grandson cant speak to their gran. I'm so hurt and anxious, I can't believe my own sister and aunt could stoop so low. I can't think straight, no idea who to turn to. It seems this scenario is more common than we care to think about. Bottom line......Is my mum alright? Does she want to see me and her grand children? Is this how it is? Is this the legacy I've got to live with for the rest of my life? Why?
Hello
I typed in google search 'My sister has stopped me seeing my mum,' and thankfully this site came up and I'm grateful for all the comments on what to do but I'm not sure any of them will work for me. I've contact the SW but got no where, I dont want to see a lawyer. I am 58 years old, married with two successful kids. I've always had a wonderful relationship with my mum which has irked my sister throughout the years but it wasnt really anything to address. She's never bothered much with my mum and in fact she has said in the past she cant really stand her. Things changed 3 years ago when my step father died leaving my mother very well off and from that point life has been hell. My mother was at the early stages of dementia and her head was easily turned, she was delighted to finally get some attention from my sister. Cutting a long story short my mum's sister and mine get on well they have always been good friends with each other. They joined forces to have me put out. I was very confused and hurt especially as my mum didn't back me up. I was distraught to receive a lawyers letter asking for the bank passwords. All I can think of is they wanted me out because of the money. They changed my mums phone number and then they moved her in with my sister. My sister hangs up when I phone. I have only managed to speak to my mum 3 times last year when she phoned me, while my sister was out. She said she didnt want to rock the boat because they would put her in a home. I learned yesterday, through facebook, that she is now in a home and I learned today that my daughter, son and I have been barred from visiting her at the home by instruction from my aunt (the POA). How can anyone ever think that splitting up a mother and daughter is the correct thing to do? How can they say that a grand daughter and grandson cant speak to their gran. I'm so hurt and anxious, I can't believe my own sister and aunt could stoop so low. I can't think straight, no idea who to turn to. It seems this scenario is more common than we care to think about. Bottom line......Is my mum alright? Does she want to see me and her grand children? Is this how it is? Is this the legacy I've got to live with for the rest of my life? Why?