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My poor mother is gone

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Witzend, Jul 21, 2015.

  1. Roses40

    Roses40 Registered User

    Jan 25, 2015
    473
    manchester
    Please accept my deepest sympathy. So nice about the letter. Love Rose x
     
  2. submarine

    submarine Registered User

    Apr 5, 2013
    25
    London
    Good to know that the end was peaceful for your mother and that her family was with her.
    may she rest in peace.
    what a journey,

    Submarine


    Sent from my iPad using Talking Point
     
  3. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,919
    Suffolk
    So sorry, Witzend, and sent you my deepest sympathy.
     
  4. Stresshead

    Stresshead Registered User

    Sep 13, 2014
    96
    I just wanted to send my condolences Witzend.

    You're in my thoughts xx



    Sent from my iPhone using Talking Point
     
  5. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,061
    Toronto, Canada
    My condolences to you and your family. But how wonderful that you have that loving letter from your mother.
     
  6. reedysue

    reedysue Registered User

    Nov 4, 2014
    4,587
    Scotland
    Sorry to hear your sad news xx.
     
  7. cragmaid

    cragmaid Registered User

    Oct 18, 2010
    7,963
    North East England
    What a dignified end to a long life. She was not alone and now neither are you...so many memories. Ditch the bad ones and smile at the happy and be content, you did your best for her.
    Condolences...Maureen.x
     
  8. Raggedrobin

    Raggedrobin Registered User

    Jan 20, 2014
    1,432
    Oh Witzend, in the light of our recent conversation about the end of life, I am so sorry but share what must also be your relief, too. You seem to have had an exceptinally long journey with your mother, I am glad for her and glad for all of you that she can now rest in peace at last.

    How lovely about finding the note from her to you all, as if to remind you all of the person she was before this dreadful illness took over. There are often sad but wonderful moments around grieving.

    I really feel for you Witzend and also appreciate many of the posts you have written. Xx
     
  9. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
    840
    Fife Scotland
    please accept my condolences, and just look forward to happier times.
     
  10. dottyd

    dottyd Registered User

    Jan 22, 2011
    1,066
    n.e.
    How strange some of us were just talking about this the other day.

    I'm so glad your mums suffering is over and it happened while you were at home and not in France.

    I hope and pray we don't have 15 years . Although,mum showed the first signs 11 years ago.

    Nice too for you to have received a letter. We have no such comforts sadly. Something we all need to take note about.

    Every time the home rings I stifle a panic as its not often. Today they rang to say mum had picked someone's tablet up and swallowed it.

    One day it will be the real thing. Like living ona knife edge.
     
  11. daisydi

    daisydi Registered User

    Feb 25, 2015
    257
    Norfolk
    So sorry for your loss but happy that your mum is now free from this awful illness. My mum is only 84 so I fear we have a long way to go yet ...
     
  12. mackie

    mackie Registered User

    Feb 9, 2015
    29
    Sorry to hear your sad news, thinking of you and your family x
     
  13. Witzend

    Witzend Registered User

    Aug 29, 2007
    4,293
    SW London
    Thank you all for so many kind words.

    xx to all.
     
  14. fredsnail

    fredsnail Registered User

    Dec 21, 2008
    649
    So sorry for your loss, although I'm sure you're relieved that she wasn't alone and it didn't happen when you're all away at the wedding.

    How wonderful to receive a note from her pre dementia - I hope that it is the first of many happy pre dementia memories that will come back in time.

    Thinking of you and your family.
     
  15. Jesskle66

    Jesskle66 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2014
    99
    I'm so sorry, Witzend. Your posts have been a source of comfort for me.
     
  16. chrisdee

    chrisdee Registered User

    Nov 23, 2014
    171
    Yorkshire
    Please accept my condolences - your thoughtful insights have been a great help to many. I do hope your marathon of coping with the dread disease is now at an end.
    Christine.
     
  17. Spiro

    Spiro Registered User

    Mar 11, 2012
    522
    May your mother rest in peace.
     
  18. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,535
    North East England
    Please accept my condolences, Witzend. I understand what you mean by sorry but not.

    Reading about the letter from your mum made me fill up, how lovely for you all to have such treasured words from your mum. Your real mum xx
     
  19. Ann Mac

    Ann Mac Registered User

    Oct 17, 2013
    3,701
    I understand the 'sorry but not sorry' too - thinking of you and yours, Witzend xxxx
     
  20. Gigglemore

    Gigglemore Registered User

    Oct 18, 2013
    526
    British Isles
    Condolences on your loss, Quilty has expressed my feelings perfectly;
    "I am so sorry for your terrible loss, but glad that you all were able to be with her at the end. Your mother must have been an incredible woman to think about her letters. I hope they help you remember her real self but that the remembering is not too bitter-sweet.

    You have walked a long hard road and have helped so many with your story. Thank you and I wish you peace in the days ahead"
     

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