A little background. My Invisible has lived abroad for over 30 years, rarely visited the folks. Mam died last summer after having Alzheimer’s for about 10 years. Now, my 87 yr old Dad is going down the same path. No diagnosis, but familiar enough to us & admits himself his memory is terrible now.
Today was Dad’s birthday. Went to see him, from a safe distance. Messaged my brother to tell him about it & mentioned a few concerning moments re Dad. His response has me flabbergasted. I quote, ‘Yep, that’s our future. It’s harmless, just requires patience, that you can do.’
Am I being over sensitive here or is that the most ridiculous statement a person could make?! I was & still am, lost for words. At least mam had dad around to look after her, until she went in the home. Dad is on his own & now I can’t even go in to check all is ok.
Harmless?! How can anyone even think that? And to say ‘that’s OUR future, when he knows damn well it will be mine. Aaaaaggggghhhhh.
This from the person who told me I had ‘put myself into a carer’s role’. I despair, he’s never going to get it is he
Today was Dad’s birthday. Went to see him, from a safe distance. Messaged my brother to tell him about it & mentioned a few concerning moments re Dad. His response has me flabbergasted. I quote, ‘Yep, that’s our future. It’s harmless, just requires patience, that you can do.’
Am I being over sensitive here or is that the most ridiculous statement a person could make?! I was & still am, lost for words. At least mam had dad around to look after her, until she went in the home. Dad is on his own & now I can’t even go in to check all is ok.
Harmless?! How can anyone even think that? And to say ‘that’s OUR future, when he knows damn well it will be mine. Aaaaaggggghhhhh.
This from the person who told me I had ‘put myself into a carer’s role’. I despair, he’s never going to get it is he