My OH is 82, has AD and now Parkinsons. He is ok really, not incontinent, tho plenty of floods in the bathroom (which of course I did, not him), lots of absolutely dotty behaviour. I am not always patient, he drives me nuts frankly, I think mainly because a lot of things are just exacerbations of unpleasant characteristics which have always been there, but coming to the fore. In short, he is a nasty old man.
I am 63, feel totally trapped. We have two young dogs which keep me sane (or nearly!), but are of course work as well. Long story, but the house is still mortgaged, very little wiggle room to do anything financially. I have just found out my blood pressure is in the sky, and of course I know what the cause is. And it cannot be removed. I am even more resentful... doc tomorrow, and pills no doubt. I have always believed in removing the cause, in order to solve the problem... but that won't be the case here.
I suppose it's selfish, but feel angry that my health has to be sacrificed. We have atttendance allowance now, so I will be able to have some help with the garden... I do find it depressing when maintenance of house/garden slips... We go out for Sunday lunch once a month, though it's getting a little difficult, and it's not really a social occasion, but at least a change of scenery. He isnt the kind to go to day centres (tho I must enquire if there is one at least). Life is just existence.
I would love to do a Reggie Perrin, but simply cannot afford it.
I should add, our daughter lives in UAE, and we have no friends.... (OH saw to that, years ago)
I am 63, feel totally trapped. We have two young dogs which keep me sane (or nearly!), but are of course work as well. Long story, but the house is still mortgaged, very little wiggle room to do anything financially. I have just found out my blood pressure is in the sky, and of course I know what the cause is. And it cannot be removed. I am even more resentful... doc tomorrow, and pills no doubt. I have always believed in removing the cause, in order to solve the problem... but that won't be the case here.
I suppose it's selfish, but feel angry that my health has to be sacrificed. We have atttendance allowance now, so I will be able to have some help with the garden... I do find it depressing when maintenance of house/garden slips... We go out for Sunday lunch once a month, though it's getting a little difficult, and it's not really a social occasion, but at least a change of scenery. He isnt the kind to go to day centres (tho I must enquire if there is one at least). Life is just existence.
I would love to do a Reggie Perrin, but simply cannot afford it.
I should add, our daughter lives in UAE, and we have no friends.... (OH saw to that, years ago)
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