My new rollercoaster life

[WIFE]

I'm trying a new approach - when someone in the village said to me today "sorry to hear you've lost your husband" I answered "Its irresponsible of me to lose him I know but I'm about to notify the police" I expect I will get a dreadful reputation for being "very odd" and not be invited to anything again. Well I tried humour for a change. Seems you can't win.

 

[jan.s]

How funny! People don't expect humour as a response. If only they knew that sometimes we need to laugh as well. Being sad is very tiring!

 

[patsy56]

. Like so many others I too find Sunday the saddest day - probably because one is so aware of couples and families spending their time together on Sundays. WIFE

With mother it is Saturday...........she hates Saturdays.

 

[WIFE]

But Jan - seems you cannot win - if you laugh they assume you are not grieving anymore. If you are still sad and don't laugh they adopt the attitude "pull yourself together". I find it all extremely confusing so find myself tending to avoid people now just so that I don't have to adopt an attitude for their sake that I might not actually be feeling. Happier at home with the dog just poddling about laughing or crying when I feel like it. Roll on Launde!

 

[Grannie G]

Happier at home with the dog just poddling about laughing or crying when I feel like it.

Apart from the dog I know just how you feel.

 

[LYN T]

But Jan - seems you cannot win - if you laugh they assume you are not grieving anymore. If you are still sad and don't laugh they adopt the attitude "pull yourself together". I find it all extremely confusing so find myself tending to avoid people now just so that I don't have to adopt an attitude for their sake that I might not actually be feeling. Happier at home with the dog just poddling about laughing or crying when I feel like it. Roll on Launde!

Laughing NOT allowed according to my NASTY, NASTY neighbour (I've posted about him before) I was speaking to another neighbour who had lost her Husband on Boxing day (not dementia-liver failure because of alcohol abuse) We were laughing about something and my neighbour walked by and said 'you ARE merry widows aren't you!'.

Speechless!!!!!