My new rollercoaster life

Discussion in 'After dementia — dealing with loss' started by jan.s, May 10, 2015.

  1. WIFE

    WIFE Registered User

    May 23, 2014
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    I'm trying a new approach - when someone in the village said to me today "sorry to hear you've lost your husband" I answered "Its irresponsible of me to lose him I know but I'm about to notify the police" I expect I will get a dreadful reputation for being "very odd" and not be invited to anything again. Well I tried humour for a change. Seems you can't win.
     
  2. jan.s

    jan.s Registered User

    Sep 20, 2011
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    How funny! People don't expect humour as a response. If only they knew that sometimes we need to laugh as well. Being sad is very tiring!
     
  3. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
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    Fife Scotland
    With mother it is Saturday...........she hates Saturdays.
     
  4. WIFE

    WIFE Registered User

    May 23, 2014
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    But Jan - seems you cannot win - if you laugh they assume you are not grieving anymore. If you are still sad and don't laugh they adopt the attitude "pull yourself together". I find it all extremely confusing so find myself tending to avoid people now just so that I don't have to adopt an attitude for their sake that I might not actually be feeling. Happier at home with the dog just poddling about laughing or crying when I feel like it. Roll on Launde!
     
  5. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
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    Kent
    Apart from the dog I know just how you feel. :)
     
  6. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
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    Brixham Devon
    Laughing NOT allowed according to my NASTY, NASTY neighbour (I've posted about him before) I was speaking to another neighbour who had lost her Husband on Boxing day (not dementia-liver failure because of alcohol abuse) We were laughing about something and my neighbour walked by and said 'you ARE merry widows aren't you!'.

    Speechless!!!!!
     

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