I would like some advice regarding my Nana and I don't know what to do, so any help would be greatly appreciated.
A bit of background information, my Nana is 78 and currently lives with her husband who is 91. He can't walk very well or do much for himself so my Nana cares for him, she cooks his meals, helps him in the bathroom and dresses him, so he's very dependent on her. All of his family live close by, they actually moved to be near him but they don't do much to help them and very rarely pop in. My Mum and I live separately, but my Mum doesn't drive and I live quite a bit away so we only go to see my Nana when I can come over in my car, which is usually once a week. We call everyday to check everything is ok.
My Nana was diagnosed with Alzheimer's towards the end of last year, we knew something was up because she started to ask the same questions in our conversations. An incident occurred last year where my Nana overdosed on Codeine because she had forgotten how many she had taken, turns out that we're very lucky she's still here. We realised that they both didn't understand how to use their Medipacks properly, so this prompted us to hire carers who come in 3 times a day to give them their medication, although they don't do much else around the house.
Recently, my Nana seems to be getting worse, she takes the bus in to town nearly everyday and we're terrified she'll get lost. She chucked out her mobile phone and has lost her bank card twice in the past month. My Mum and I have discussed putting her in to a home near my Mum or having a full time carer for her to keep an eye on her but the problem is her husband.
We had a chat with him at the weekend and all he could say was that he was fine, but we know this, he's only fine because my Nana cares form him. We discussed my Nana's welfare and he seemed to take it all in, but after a phone call just before he was shouting in the background that he didn't want any more help.
This situation has brought me to tears, there's only me and Mum as her brother is nowhere to be seen. If my Nana's husband keeps resisting we may have to split them up but I know they don't want that and unfortunately my Nana will always agree with what he says. My Mum and I have registered as LPA's for her too, we're desperately trying to get her the help she needs. Her husband's children (they're all in their 60s') don't do anything because they're happy to think that my Nana looks after him. I just don't know what we should do...has anyone else been in this situation? Any guidance would be so appreciated!
Thank you
A bit of background information, my Nana is 78 and currently lives with her husband who is 91. He can't walk very well or do much for himself so my Nana cares for him, she cooks his meals, helps him in the bathroom and dresses him, so he's very dependent on her. All of his family live close by, they actually moved to be near him but they don't do much to help them and very rarely pop in. My Mum and I live separately, but my Mum doesn't drive and I live quite a bit away so we only go to see my Nana when I can come over in my car, which is usually once a week. We call everyday to check everything is ok.
My Nana was diagnosed with Alzheimer's towards the end of last year, we knew something was up because she started to ask the same questions in our conversations. An incident occurred last year where my Nana overdosed on Codeine because she had forgotten how many she had taken, turns out that we're very lucky she's still here. We realised that they both didn't understand how to use their Medipacks properly, so this prompted us to hire carers who come in 3 times a day to give them their medication, although they don't do much else around the house.
Recently, my Nana seems to be getting worse, she takes the bus in to town nearly everyday and we're terrified she'll get lost. She chucked out her mobile phone and has lost her bank card twice in the past month. My Mum and I have discussed putting her in to a home near my Mum or having a full time carer for her to keep an eye on her but the problem is her husband.
We had a chat with him at the weekend and all he could say was that he was fine, but we know this, he's only fine because my Nana cares form him. We discussed my Nana's welfare and he seemed to take it all in, but after a phone call just before he was shouting in the background that he didn't want any more help.
This situation has brought me to tears, there's only me and Mum as her brother is nowhere to be seen. If my Nana's husband keeps resisting we may have to split them up but I know they don't want that and unfortunately my Nana will always agree with what he says. My Mum and I have registered as LPA's for her too, we're desperately trying to get her the help she needs. Her husband's children (they're all in their 60s') don't do anything because they're happy to think that my Nana looks after him. I just don't know what we should do...has anyone else been in this situation? Any guidance would be so appreciated!
Thank you