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My mum's journey has ended

Discussion in 'After dementia — dealing with loss' started by sue38, May 12, 2017.

  1. sue38

    sue38 Volunteer Moderator

    Mar 6, 2007
    Wigan, Lancs
    I haven't posted a great deal about my mum's journey with dementia, but my mum died yesterday afternoon. 7 years and 8 days after we lost my dad to dementia.

    We were told almost 4 weeks ago that mum was end of life, yet despite everything she battled on. Even when we got the call at 4 in the morning that mum's breathing indicated that the end was very near she battled on for another 11 hours. We have been supported throughout by the carers and nurses in mum's care home, for which we are so grateful.

    As many of you will understand it's a mixture of sadness and relief that mum has been released.
  2. CarerForMum

    CarerForMum Registered User

    May 5, 2017

    Sincere sympathy.
  3. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Host

    Dec 15, 2012
    sad news Sue38
    your mum has found peace - no doubt she was greeted with a welcome kiss from your dad
    it's good to read that you were so well supported by the care home staff
    I hope you and your family find your way through the arrangements to be made
    and also find some peace for yourselves
  4. jaymor

    jaymor Volunteer Moderator

    Jul 14, 2006
    So sorry to hear your news Sue and fully understand the mixture of sadness and relief.

    Take care and my condolences to you and your sisters.
  5. LadyA

    LadyA Volunteer Host

    Oct 19, 2009
    My condolences Sue. Relief that your mum's suffering is over, I'm sure, but the loss of your mum is still a huge loss.
  6. rosy18

    rosy18 Registered User

    Jul 23, 2016
    My condolences to you such a mixture of emotions but your Mum is now at peace and reunited with your Dad.xx
  7. turbo

    turbo Registered User

    Aug 1, 2007
    I'm so sorry to read that your mum has died Sue.
    My sincere condolences to you and your family.
  8. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    Thinking of you and your family Sue. I'm glad your mum is now at peace.

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  9. kassy

    kassy Registered User

    Dec 9, 2009
    I'm so sorry to read about your mum Sue,thinking of you and your family.x
  10. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    Sending love and sympathy Sue. Sad news. A sad time. Mum is at rest and at peace. Be kind to yourself. xx
  11. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    I'm so sorry Sue. My thoughts are with you.
  12. Chemmy

    Chemmy Volunteer Moderator

    Nov 7, 2011
    Sincere condolences, Sue. I'm pleased your mum is now at peace.
  13. CeliaW

    CeliaW Registered User

    Jan 29, 2009
    So sorry Sue, although expected that doesn't really lessen the grief.

    Take care of yourself xx

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  14. nellbelles

    nellbelles Volunteer Host

    Nov 6, 2008
    My condolences to you and all the family, I'm sure the love you all share will give you strength at this sad time.
  15. cragmaid

    cragmaid Registered User

    Oct 18, 2010
    North East England
    No more pain, no more suffering..... but a great big hole in your life and a sadness in your heart. With sympathy..... Maureen.x.
  16. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    Brixham Devon
    Sue, I'm very sorry to read your sad news-but glad your Mum is now at peace.

    I hope you find strength for the times ahead.


    Lyn T XX
  17. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
    near Folkestone
    Such sad news Sue , thinking of you xx

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  18. Mal2

    Mal2 Registered User

    Oct 14, 2014
    So sorry to hear your news. Mam is at peace now, and with Dad.
    My deepest sympathy and condolences to you and your family, at this very sad time.
    Wishing you strength over the coming weeks. xxxxx
  19. jugglingmum

    jugglingmum Registered User

    Jan 5, 2014
    Sorry to hear your news, thinking of you
  20. sue38

    sue38 Volunteer Moderator

    Mar 6, 2007
    Wigan, Lancs
    Thank you all.

    It's early days of course but alongside the feelings of sadness there is a sense of relief and release. Both for mum and for us.

    Hopefully mum and dad are together somewhere - and no doubt falling out already! Today is a lovely sunny day and although I'm only doing washing, cleaning the house, walking the dog and so on, I am doing it without feeling I should be with mum or sorting something out for her.

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