1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. Whocares

    Whocares Registered User

    Mar 18, 2006
    27
    Hi All, I am devastated to let you all know that my lovely mum died yesterday morning. I am hurting more than I thought possible. She got an infection and went down really quickly. We had to decide whether to take her to hospital or make her comfortable.

    We kept her in familiar surroundings and spent the last two days of her life with her, Telling her what a lovely mum she had been to us all,

    I never thought the end would be so quick, I feel blessed to have known and loved her. heart broken to have lost her and relieved she is out of all the physical and mental pain the dementia caused her.

    Both parents in 9 months seems so hard to bear
     
  2. noelphobic

    noelphobic Registered User

    Feb 24, 2006
    3,452
    Liverpool
    I am so very sorry to hear your sad news.
     
  3. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    1,157
    thinking of you and your family, im so sorry for your loss
    take care xx
     
  4. johnw

    johnw Registered User

    May 14, 2006
    34
    manchester
    together again

    I too am so sorry to hear of your heart felt pain. I hope you can soon get past this hurt in the thought that your parents will now be happy again in each others arms.
    I'm so pleased you kept her at home for her last goodby, you did the right thing for her and the family.
    Know we all care on this forum and always will.
     
  5. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    I am so sorry to hear about your mum, but it is so good that you were able to be close to her as she reached the end of her journey.
    Thinking of you.
    Love Amy
     
  6. moviefan318

    moviefan318 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    32
    northamptonshire
    so sorry for your loss, you did your very best.
    thinking of you carol
     
  7. alex

    alex Registered User

    Apr 10, 2006
    1,665
    So sorry

    So sorry to hear that your mum died, i am sure nothing anyone says will make things any more bearable for you at the moment, but it helps a little to know that others are thinking about you and that they care about the heartache you are going through.

    Its always heartbreaking to say goodbye to someone you love very much, but at least you were there and had the chance to say everything you wanted to say.

    Have you heard of the "Footprints in the Sand Poem"? If so, you will realise that you've been carrying your mum for a long time, now let her carry you through this sad time, I'm sure she would want too.

    Thinking of you
    Alex
     
  8. Kriss

    Kriss Registered User

    May 20, 2004
    513
    Shropshire
    The pain seems unbearable but your Mum and your Dad will always be with you. I'm not in the slightest "religious" as I think there is far more to our universe than we mortals can even begin to understand or explain away with our stories but since losing my Dad I know he is still helping me through each day. Whatever your beliefs you can take comfort in having helped your Mum in her last few days by being there. What else could any of us ask for?

    Kriss
     
  9. mumof3

    mumof3 Registered User

    Feb 6, 2006
    82
    Whocares, I am sorry to hear your sad news. You can gain some comfort from knowing that you did your very best for your mum right up the end. I am absolutely sure you did the right thing in keeping her in familiar surroundings and just being with her and letting her know how much she meant to you.

    It is a truely awful thing to lose both parents especially so close together. I lost my dad and then mum within three years and that was hard enough. It doesn't matter what age you are, you still feel orphaned.

    Take time for yourself especially in the next few weeks when you run out of things to organise and keep you occupied.
     
  10. rummy

    rummy Registered User

    Jul 15, 2005
    700
    Oklahoma,USA
    Who cares,
    I just want to add my condolences to you. It is so hard to loose our parents but I know you will becomforted knowing this terrible illness can no longer hurt your Mom. Try to remember her as she was and is now, a whole person with her memories back. Now it is time to take care of yourself. Take care and please let us know how you are.

    Debbie
     
  11. mojofilter

    mojofilter Registered User

    May 10, 2006
    130
    St.Helens
    Sorry to hear about your loss, I'll be thinking about you and your family at this sad time.

    Paul
     
  12. Linda Mc

    Linda Mc Registered User

    Jul 3, 2005
    1,881
    Nr Mold
    So very sorry for your loss, but take comfort in the fact you were able to be together at the end.

    Love and hugs

    Linda x
     
  13. PatH

    PatH Registered User

    Feb 14, 2005
    301
    N.Ireland
    So sorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts are with you.
    Pat
     
  14. jakky

    jakky Registered User

    Jan 30, 2006
    147
    Staffs
    sorry to hear your sad loss, be strong....

    jakky
    x
     
  15. sheilarees53

    sheilarees53 Registered User

    Apr 11, 2006
    37
    Beckenham Kent
    I too would like to say how sorry I am to hear of your sad loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

    love Sheila x
     
  16. Kathleen

    Kathleen Registered User

    Mar 12, 2005
    639
    West Sussex
    Just to add my sincere sorrow for the loss of your Mum, take comfort in the thought that she and your dad are back together again.

    In time to come, you may be comforted that her suffering was fairly short, and you did the right thing by keeping her with you and giving her a loving last goodbye.

    Take care of yourself,

    Kathleen
     
  17. maria29al

    maria29al Registered User

    Mar 15, 2006
    426
    Warwickshire
    Huge hugs.

    Take care.

    M

    xxxxxx
     
  18. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    5,379
    NW England
    Sorry for this belated response - but it comes with huge hugs and my hopes that you will look after yourself as you need to now,

    Love, Karen, x
     

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