Mum has been in the home now for 3+ weeks.One visit we think she is accepting thing and the next she is upset and depressed. (she told one of my brothers it would be better if she was dead) Today the home rang me to say the mum was not very well. Blood sugar low (diabetic) and a chesty cough. When mum went to the home they were given a very explicit diagram and advice re testing blood sugar. It seems that her "blood sugars" were 0.1 which is very dangerously low. Doctor prescribed anti biotics which I collected and took to the home. Mum looked really ill. After 20 mins of my visit I suggested that mum should take her 1st pill.(sooner the better) They gave me the pill to admimister to mum. Mum like many elderly folk has tissue thin skin.The worst it got at home was occasional bluish black bruising.I was always very careful about this. Today I was doing up mums blouse cuff buttons and noticed alot of bruising on the inside of her left forearm + some "blisters" + a dressing further up the arm, I asked the "nurse in charge" to take a look and when I asked about the dressing she did not know why it was there. I am at my wits end. Every time I visit I leave in tears and today I was in tears before I left. What have I done putting my mum in a home?? she has gone "down" so much in 3 weeks. Could I cope if she came home? Can i live with myself leaving her in such a strange environment? snuffyuk PS. thank god for this site.