Hi, my mother has been in a home for dementia patients since the death of my father last December . Unfortunately I live in a different country so I only get to see her in person a couple of times a year. I am able to do video calls with her and a career, but I find it very hard to have a conversation with her. Seeing me, even though she finds it confusing over the phone she keeps asking me where Derek is (my father) and I have been told to not keep telling her that he has passed because to her she is hearing it for the first time every time. How can I deal with this, and talk with her? I find myself dreading making the call but I want to talk and see her as much as I can.