1. perfectpatience

    perfectpatience Registered User

    Oct 3, 2006
    64
    Essex
    Hi all. Just would like to let you know that my mum passed away peacefully in her sleep this evening. I had been to visit her this afternoon....and the nursing home nurse found she had passed away in her sleep later in the evening. I would have liked to have been with her...I have since been back...and she looks very peaceful. Today her brother came to see her....and some other family. She was asleep..but I hope she could feel the love in the room today with all her family there. Iam so numb at the moment. There seems so much to do. I want to thank all at t/p for helping me through these dark days when I would post about my mums condition....every reply was much appreciated and valued. Love PP xx
     
  2. ann60

    ann60 Registered User

    Nov 24, 2006
    21
    Australia
    What can I say but I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I guess it's something we all are going to have to go through at some stage and hopfully knowing that there are others out there that know exactly what you are going through can help in some small way. I'm sure that your mum knew how loved she was even though she couldn't communicate with you and your family. That's what I like to think every time I visit my mum. Take care and a big hug. Ann
     
  3. Helena

    Helena Registered User

    May 24, 2006
    715
    Perfect Patience

    I feel for you in your loss ,you must be thankful she is no longer suffering and is at peace .
    This time last week I was in your shoes too tomorrow is my Mothers Funeral

    The wonderful smell of the lilies that are for her coffin pervades my house currently and i take comfort in knowing she is no longer suffering
     
  4. maria29al

    maria29al Registered User

    Mar 15, 2006
    426
    Warwickshire
    I am so sorry to hear about your Mum. You will feel numb for a while. Take time to heal.
    Thinking of you.
    Big hug.
    M
    x
     
  5. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    Hiya PP,
    I would like to think that you all being there in some way gave mum a sense of completeness, of having said her goodbyes, although she seemed to be sleeping, and allowed her to let go. You have obviously given her so much love and care; struggled with her being in the Nursing Home - now she is free, and hopefully in time you will find some peace.
    Thinking of you.
    Love Helen
     
  6. mariak

    mariak Registered User

    Sep 3, 2003
    30
    I too have just lost my Mum and feel so much pain at loosing her. She was a light that shone so bright and now life seems a darker place. my Mums funeral is monday. I have chosen one of her beautiful dresses to be buried in along with a favorite handbag so each one can give her a token of their love to go over with. I look each night to the stars to say goodnight. I know monday will be a dreadful day. I know all the sayings your Mum is free, she is not suffering anymore, but I am missing her so much.
    Mariak
     
  7. Kayla

    Kayla Registered User

    May 14, 2006
    621
    Kent
    Dear PP,
    I was so sorry to hear that your mother passed away last night, but at least she had a peaceful end to her life. It was good that her family were able to meet together in her room. My condolences to you all and I hope you will be able to look back on all the happy memories of your Mum as you move forward into the future.
    Kayla

    Dear Helena,
    I hope your mother's funeral goes well and those lovely lilies sound so beautiful and fragrant.
    Kayla
     
  8. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    Hiya Maria,
    Of course you are missing her love- no matter how ill they become, how dependent on others for their every need- they are still our 'mum' - and I know for me, when those arms enfolded me, I felt safe and things would be OK. Maria go with the flow - if you feel like smiling, smile, and if you feel like crying , cry, and if you feel angry, find a place to shout. All these feelings are right. You will get through this time. When my 12 year old son was given the option of viewing his much loved grandad's body and going to the funeral I was worried for him; he turned round and said "What's the worst that can happen mum? I'll cry, and that'll be OK". Don't fear for Monday, you will be OK.
    Thinking of you.
    Love Helen
     
  9. alex

    alex Registered User

    Apr 10, 2006
    1,665
    Hi pp

    Sorry to hear of your loss, but the good thing is that your mum left this world peacefully.........nothing will be a comfort to you at the moment, but knowing that will be a comfort later on.
    Take care of yourself and take things one day at a time for now.

    Maria............don't dread the funeral............people kept telling me that it would be a lovely day and that i'd feel surrounded by love............and that was so true, i was surrounded by everyone who loved Ray and knew how i felt and that was a great comfort.

    Best wishes to you both
    Love Alex x
     
  10. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Hi PP
    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss....take comfort that your mum slipped peacefully away
    take carexx




    Maria
    sending you love and hugs.....be strong
    xx
     
  11. Lila13

    Lila13 Registered User

    Feb 24, 2006
    1,342
    I'm sorry about your mother.

    Lila
     
  12. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,439
    Dear PP
    So sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.

    Jennifer
     
  13. perfectpatience

    perfectpatience Registered User

    Oct 3, 2006
    64
    Essex
    Thankyou so much everyone for your kind words and support. It has meant so much. My head is in a whirl...so much to think about...so much to do. I was upset that my mum passed away alone...but after reading some of the posts...I realise it might have been her wish...and she waited till everyone went before she slipped away. I hope she was ok....and she did look so peaceful and pain free...when I went to see her...and she was still warm. Anyway thankyou again...I will post again at a later date. Kind regards to everybody. Love PP xx
     
  14. kazlou

    kazlou Registered User

    Feb 3, 2006
    75
    Surrey
    So sorry to hear about your Mum.
    It will be difficult time for you and the family but I am sure you all have some lovely memories to hold on to.
    Thinking of you
    Kazlou
     
  15. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Dear PP

    So sorry to hear about your mum. I know you feel sad at not being with her, but you saw her in the afternoon, and she knew you love her. Take comfort from the fact that she is now at peace, and her dreadful struggle is over.

    Be good to yourself for a while, you need time to recover, and is normal to feel numb.

    Take care,
     
  16. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    5,379
    NW England
    Dear PP,

    Just wanted to send my love and thoughts to you ....

    Post whenever you need ......


    Love, Karen, x
     
  17. janjan

    janjan Registered User

    Jan 27, 2006
    229
    Birmingham
    Sending you my heart felt sympathy at this sad time.
     
  18. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    1,157
    dear pp

    so sorry for your loss thinking of you at this sad time
    take care x
     
  19. Grandaughter 1

    Grandaughter 1 Registered User

    Jan 17, 2006
    141
    Hampshire
    I am so sorry for your loss.

    Louise x
     
  20. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,578
    Kent
    Perfect Patience, Please accept my deepest sympathy and sincere condolences. Sylvia
     

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