Hi everyone, mum has been in hospital for 3 weeks now. She was admitted as she had blood in her urine as well as yet another UTI. She has kidney stones which they thought would pass in her urine but they have not. She really needs to have an operation but she is 88 years old and does not have a great quality of life now. We are meeting with the team at the hospital this morning to make decisions about her care and as you can imagine I am quite in a state. I have read that anaesthetic has a effect on the brain and can make dementia worse (that's if they offer an operation)? The other option is where do we go from here if an operation isn't viable ? Has anyone had any experience with this? Has the person you cared for needed surgery and what happened? Just like to add mum is not in any pain, and is eating small amounts and is on fluids. She has also had a blood transfusion. Thanks