Hello everyone,
Can anyone help? My mum is 63 and has had Alzheimer's for about eight years now and has lived at home with her partner. Over the last year or so she has needed carers to come to the house and help get her dressed and washed in the morning, and look after her during the day as she wanders a lot. She isn't incontinent and can tell you by expression and body movement that she needs the loo. She needs encouragement to eat and drink (she can't cook or make drinks for herself), but can mostly let you know what she likes and dislikes. She has responded well to the sitting service we have put in place, and seems happier and can converse slightly better because of this.
My problem is; Mum's partner has decided to leave. Mum cannot be left by herself, so she needs 24 hour care. She really isn't ready for a care home- i took her to visit one the other day ( i wanted to see if i could find a home that might be suitable as i was really worried social services might take control and just stick her in anywhere) and she was really upset and could tell that something wasn't right. I know her condition would worsen if she went into a home. Even a trip to my house for a couple of nights, she finds confusing, and will get out of bed up to five times a night, whereas at her home she gets up once to go the toilet. Does anyone know of someone with Alzheimer's who has been funded by the government to be allowed to stay at home, for the good of their health? Mum has direct payments already from 8am to 4.30pm. Surely there must be some way of keeping her at home? I could have my Mum once a week to stay the night (i am married with two young children, otherwise i would have her more). She really benefits from one on one attention and loves going out and looking around the shops and buying things; i know she wouldn't receive this kind of attention in a care home.
Would really appreciate any ideas.....
Can anyone help? My mum is 63 and has had Alzheimer's for about eight years now and has lived at home with her partner. Over the last year or so she has needed carers to come to the house and help get her dressed and washed in the morning, and look after her during the day as she wanders a lot. She isn't incontinent and can tell you by expression and body movement that she needs the loo. She needs encouragement to eat and drink (she can't cook or make drinks for herself), but can mostly let you know what she likes and dislikes. She has responded well to the sitting service we have put in place, and seems happier and can converse slightly better because of this.
My problem is; Mum's partner has decided to leave. Mum cannot be left by herself, so she needs 24 hour care. She really isn't ready for a care home- i took her to visit one the other day ( i wanted to see if i could find a home that might be suitable as i was really worried social services might take control and just stick her in anywhere) and she was really upset and could tell that something wasn't right. I know her condition would worsen if she went into a home. Even a trip to my house for a couple of nights, she finds confusing, and will get out of bed up to five times a night, whereas at her home she gets up once to go the toilet. Does anyone know of someone with Alzheimer's who has been funded by the government to be allowed to stay at home, for the good of their health? Mum has direct payments already from 8am to 4.30pm. Surely there must be some way of keeping her at home? I could have my Mum once a week to stay the night (i am married with two young children, otherwise i would have her more). She really benefits from one on one attention and loves going out and looking around the shops and buying things; i know she wouldn't receive this kind of attention in a care home.
Would really appreciate any ideas.....