My Mum is struggling in caring for my Dad

[Choccymolly]

My Mum has been caring for my Dad for around 8 years now, she is 82 and my Dad is 87. She copes very well but she struggles with the fact that my Dad won't let her out of his sight. He is very possessive, he doesn't like her talking to anyone else, he is jealous of her, and won't even let her answer the telephone without listening in. I try to help out by taking them out and my husband takes my Dad to snooker once a week while I take my Mum shopping; but we both still work so we aren't able to do this every day.

I would like to ask if anyone else has experienced this situation and how can we look at respite when my Dad won't let my Mum out of his sight?

 

[karaokePete]

Hello @Choccymolly, welcome to the forum.

My wife is like this with me but I think it’s a result of dementia induced anxiety rather than jealousy.

Maybe if you could make use of some of the support services that may exist in your area it might help. You can do a post code check if you click on this link https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/find-support-near-you

 

[karaokePete]

Of course, the other thing that may help is having a needs assessment done for both parents as that may introduce your Dad to things like day centers and give your Mum some respite at the same time.

If you click on the next link you can read a fact sheet about this https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/sites...assessment_for_care_in_support_in_england.pdf

 

[Onmyown]

My mum is like this with me knows too much about my life and is obsessed with me. Where I'm going how long, who am I talking to? Its very annoying. Dosnt want me having a break dosnt understand why I need a break? I think they are afraid on thier own?