My mum is in hospital


Registered User
Jun 24, 2007
My mum was taken in to hospital on 14th May. She had a UTI, which has not responded to antibiotics.

When I saw the doctor on 21st May, he prepared me for the worst, as he felt she was coming towards the end.

Since then she has declined even further. She's still got the UTI, her kidneys don't function very well, she's on a drip for nourishment as she doesn't eat anything, she's having oxygen as the oxygen level in her blood is low, and she sleeps all the time.

It is terrible to see her lying there, so weak and ill. After dealing with everything I've had to deal with over the last 4 years, I thought I'd be able to deal with this, but it is breaking my heart.

If you've been in this situation, how did you cope? Nothing seems to be changing at the moment, and I'm afraid it'll be like this for weeks - I just want her to be at peace


Registered User
Aug 29, 2006
SW Scotland
Dear Pirate

I'm so sorry your mum is so ill. John too had a serious UTI. He recovered to a certain extent, but lost mobility and balance, which he has never regained.

Dreadful the way these infections can affect people with dementia.

I can't tell you how to cope, but you will!:)

You'll be strong for your mum's sake, and come here any time you want to talk. There's always someone who'll support you.

Love and hugs,


Registered User
Mar 7, 2004
Somehow we cope by supporting each other.

Similar situations, similar circumstances. Someone is sure to have experienced them, but we are all different and react differently.

Thinking of you, and hoping mum rallies from this situation soon.