My mother has just been diagnosed with early stage Alzheimers and vascular dementia, but refuses to accept there is anything wrong. The lady from the Memory Assessment Service was very good but mum just didn't listen to her and refuses to accept anything is the matter with her. She is very upset at getting letters offering support as she doesn't see what they are talking about. Her memory is really bad, and the latest problem is that she thinks someone (cleaner or someone else) has taken her vacuum cleaner and is now accusing people of lying when they try to tell her no-one has taken it. I am an only child and live with my grown up daughter an hour away, and there are no other relatives. I simply don't know how to cope with her refusal to accept that she has problems. If anyone can give me any help, I would be very grateful.