1. kazza73

    kazza73 Registered User

    Feb 11, 2009
    878
    Perthshire Scotland
    I haven't been on TP for a long time but felt the need to come back to share the news that my beloved mum passed away a week ago today. She was 67 years old. My dad & I were by her side.
    Dementia has been a part of our lives for so long that I don't quite know what to do with myself. It has been a long, heartbreaking journey.
    I went to see mum's body at the funeral director's on Tuesday & it was the first time in almost 10 years that I have seen my mum look truly peaceful.
    Although the pain of losing her is almost unbearable, I am so glad for her that her living hell is finally over.
     
  2. Auntie Mame

    Auntie Mame Registered User

    Jan 24, 2016
    11
    I'm a new contributor here, but I suspect an announcement such as this is common, as dementia victims don't always live very long. Reading it, we who are carers put ourselves in your shoes, for that day will come. God bless you.
     
  3. kazza73

    kazza73 Registered User

    Feb 11, 2009
    878
    Perthshire Scotland
    Thanks Kassy
    Mum fought hard right up to the end. She completely lost the ability to swallow any foods or liquids last Monday & it took her until 6.30 on Friday morning to finally pass.

    In many ways she has been gone for a long time- unable to recognise any of us or to communicate for almost 4 years- & yet I can't believe how much I miss just her physical presence. In times of trouble, even though she couldn't say or do anything, I instinctively went to her in the home & just sat quietly by her side & told her my worries.
    I thought I was prepared for her loss but nothing can ever really prepare you. It hurts like hell & yet I am glad she is no longer suffering.

    Xxx
     
  4. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    I am so sorry for your loss Kazza. I suspect the mixed feelings are common - glad that your loved one is no longer suffering but heartbroken that they have gone from your life. Please be very kind to yourself.
     
  5. MeganCat

    MeganCat Registered User

    Jan 29, 2013
    356
    South Wales
    Im So sorry for your loss Kazza, but glad your mum is finally at peace. It will be a big adjustment in your life, youve been on such a long journey together; do be kind to yourself, thinking of you x
     
  6. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,233
    Female
    Dundee
    I'm so sorry to read your news. Sending my condolences and wishing you strength for the days to come.
     
  7. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    Condolences to you and your family. But also glad that your mum is now free of her illness. Take care. xx
     
  8. stanleypj

    stanleypj Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    10,629
    North West
    My thoughts are with you at this sad time. I'm glad you saw that you were at last able to see that your mum was truly at peace.
     
  9. Selinacroft

    Selinacroft Registered User

    Oct 10, 2015
    937
    Sending you virtual hugs at this sad time Kazza
     
  10. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
    2,740
    Kazza so sad to hear your news, sending you a hug and one for your Dad too xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  11. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,738
    Yorkshire
    My very best wishes to you and your dad at this sad time
     
  12. Ameliasmama

    Ameliasmama Registered User

    Oct 24, 2015
    44
    Sorry for your loss Kazza, take care of yourself xx


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  13. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,535
    North East England
    I'm so sorry, kazza, please accept my condolences.
     
  14. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    I'm so sorry to read your sad news, but it was good that you and your Dad were with her, and she is now free from pain. May her dear sweet soul Rest In Peace xxx
     
  15. Quilty

    Quilty Registered User

    Aug 28, 2014
    1,056
    GLASGOW
    So sorry for your loss. Im glad you abd your dad have each other to lean on. Sending you strength for the days ahead.
     
  16. LeedsLass

    LeedsLass Registered User

    Oct 13, 2014
    107
    Essex
    Hi Kazza my mum also passed away a week ago today. Relieved the dreadful suffering is over but heartbroken I will never see her again. Thoughts are with you xxx


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  17. lin1

    lin1 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2010
    9,322
    Female
    East Kent
    Dear Kazza, Sending my condolences to you and your family .
     
  18. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    Condolences to you too LeedsLass xxx
     
  19. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,968
    Brixham Devon
    I remember your previous posts Kazza and how your Mum, you and your family suffered through this terrible disease. I'm glad that you saw your Mum is now at peace-I wish you strength to see you through your grief.

    Love,

    Lyn T XX
     
  20. Chantilly

    Chantilly Registered User

    Jan 29, 2016
    8
    Australia
    #20 Chantilly, Feb 6, 2016
    Last edited: Feb 6, 2016
    Dear Kazza. I am s new member and haven't been aware of your writings before. Please accept my warmest heartfelt sympathy. My sister passed last week and her condition sounds like your mum's. My sister was diagnosed with. FTD and she suffered for 8 long drawn out painful years. I agree with you no amount of expectation can prepare you for the amount of pain that is in our hearts for someone that was so close to you. Her final days were like you described and I was there to help her pass over. I brushed her hair before her final breath and I think that it made relax and let go. My god the aching is awful in our bodies for losing our loved ones but I want to believe there is a place for her free of pain. I feel for you. They both left us on the same day.
    Xxx
     

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