So sorry to read your post Dazmum.
Sincere condolences on losing your Mum, but lovely to read how you were able to be with you at the crucial time.
I lost my Mum at the end of January this year. Today my Dad has been moved onto end of life care, so I understand the anguish.
It sounds like your group of friends will be able to support and help you in the times ahead. The support on talking point both off and online really does make a difference.