Hello everyone
Im new to this forum, and am helping my dad look after my mum who has mid onset altzheimers which has recently seemed to have progressed a level.
My mums memory is now presenting her with things that happened a long time ago as things just happened. Tonight I FaceTimed my parents and mum was in tears as she said she has just been told that her mother has died. My grandmother died 30 years ago and it’s heartbreaking to see mum this upset believing that it’s just happened, and blaming my dad for ’not telling her’.
it clearly doesn’t work to try to rationalise this to her, telling her the facts that nan died years ago. It’s meaningless and just confuses her more. We are learning as a family to ‘go with’ her trips down memory Lane, to work with her confusion rather than try to trigger a more recent memory as that isnt working when she has periods of an hour or two when she is very confused and upset. These ‘episodes’ are very new to us, in the last week.
does anyone have any advice about how you can move the conversation on, helping to reduce the tears and comfort? I simply don’t know myself and would like to help my mum and also give my dad advice on what he can do. Or is it a case of letting these kinds of periods run their natural course? She has been on Mematine but I will also talk to the doctor as it might be time to review that.
thanks in advance for anything you can suggest to help us learn to help mum .
Im new to this forum, and am helping my dad look after my mum who has mid onset altzheimers which has recently seemed to have progressed a level.
My mums memory is now presenting her with things that happened a long time ago as things just happened. Tonight I FaceTimed my parents and mum was in tears as she said she has just been told that her mother has died. My grandmother died 30 years ago and it’s heartbreaking to see mum this upset believing that it’s just happened, and blaming my dad for ’not telling her’.
it clearly doesn’t work to try to rationalise this to her, telling her the facts that nan died years ago. It’s meaningless and just confuses her more. We are learning as a family to ‘go with’ her trips down memory Lane, to work with her confusion rather than try to trigger a more recent memory as that isnt working when she has periods of an hour or two when she is very confused and upset. These ‘episodes’ are very new to us, in the last week.
does anyone have any advice about how you can move the conversation on, helping to reduce the tears and comfort? I simply don’t know myself and would like to help my mum and also give my dad advice on what he can do. Or is it a case of letting these kinds of periods run their natural course? She has been on Mematine but I will also talk to the doctor as it might be time to review that.
thanks in advance for anything you can suggest to help us learn to help mum .