1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. Johnsy1

    Johnsy1 Registered User

    Feb 12, 2015
    14
    #1 Johnsy1, Aug 27, 2015
    Last edited: Aug 28, 2015
    My mum has an obsession with flies at the minute. If one comes into the house, goes on the window, or crawls on the floor..........she is on a mission they have to go! She gets aggressive and agitated, it`s as though she thinks they are after her!! It`s quite funny to watch, but sad to realise what is happening. I am finding that the way I cope at the minute is to write poems and verse. Some sad, some humorous so I thought I`d share this one with you. It`s called the fly...........................

    The fly

    “Just leave the room and count to ten”
    I say to myself again and again
    Mums angry tantrums are getting worse
    Which leads me now to write this verse

    Where has she gone my mum of old
    Her eyes look sad and oh so cold
    Her voice is raised she shouts some more
    Oh my god, my ears are sore

    No fly is safe when mums around
    There’s one on the window and one on the ground
    she hates them all they`ll have to go
    what have they done...I don`t know

    I begin to laugh or else I`ll cry
    Might even end up like the fly
    But even through her eyes of hate
    My mum still calls the fly..... her best mate

    xxx
     
  2. Mannie

    Mannie Registered User

    Mar 13, 2014
    115
    Bracknell area
    Brill poem !!!

    Have you considered a visit to her GP, they shouldbe able to help either to refer you to community psychiatric nurse to provide suggestions on how to avoid . Or depending on the situation they may prescribe meds.

    Maybe introduce more activities and exercise, it might be she needs more of these to stop her getting agitated, anxious and aggressive.

    I have read that these are usually a phase....but this does not mean you have to endure it without any help or advice for a professional.

    Just a thought.
     
  3. Johnsy1

    Johnsy1 Registered User

    Feb 12, 2015
    14
    Thanks

    Hi

    Thanks for your response. Just started mum on a low dose of medication in the last couple of days to try and reduce the agitation and anxiety. Bit of trial and error at the minute but hopefully it will help her.

    x
     
  4. garnuft

    garnuft Registered User

    Sep 7, 2012
    6,589
    Love your poetry, great way of dealing with things.

    I have to say I don't have Dementia but I share your Mum's obsession with the removal of flies :)

    I hope your Mum feels less anxious and agitated and the medication she is receiving is helping her.

    Still...I defy anyone to ignore a big, fat bluebottle in the house! :)
     
  5. Kjn

    Kjn Registered User

    Jul 27, 2013
    5,835
    I too hate flies ...:eek:
     
  6. Sue J

    Sue J Registered User

    Dec 9, 2009
    8,042
    #6 Sue J, Aug 27, 2015
    Last edited: Aug 27, 2015
  7. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
    4,829
    UK
    My mum seems to be aware of any fly that gets in the house and she hates them, not to fond myself, I bought a couple of fly swots [?spelling], so happy when she gets one. Only problem is when they land on tv, her back hand would give McEnroe a run for his money.
     
  8. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    Great poem Johnsy! I do hope the medication helps your mum to feel more relaxed.
     
  9. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,674
    Kent
    I have a can of Raid in every room in the house.
     

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