My mum has just been diagnosed with Vascular Dementia - stroke related. She had a stroke around 8 years ago and has been losing memory and showing signs of confusion etc. for the last year or so. I don't know what to expect going forward although I have lots of information about groups I can go to where I can learn more about how to handle this illness.
My mum has always been a very anxious person and has become more anxious as time has gone on. She prefers to stay in her own home and is not keen to join groups or go to day centres where she will be 'occupied'. I kind of understand where she is coming from, I am not much of a 'joiner' myself. My question is - should I be pushing her to go to these groups? She has tried one over the last two weeks and is really scared of going again - everyone there is very kind to her but she just doesn't like it. She doesn't want to join in the quizzes etc. but when they say she doesn't have to - she thinks they will say she is stupid etc.... Some people say I should make her go because once there she is 'happy' and that the social stimulation is good for her!! Mum told me that she just sits and smiles at everyone so she looks happy but really she is just waiting to be taken home. I do not believe that my mum is 'being awkward' she doesn't behave like that but she is very scared and uncomfortable in these group situations. Has anyone else been in this position, and, if so, what did you do ...?
Thank you in advance
My mum has always been a very anxious person and has become more anxious as time has gone on. She prefers to stay in her own home and is not keen to join groups or go to day centres where she will be 'occupied'. I kind of understand where she is coming from, I am not much of a 'joiner' myself. My question is - should I be pushing her to go to these groups? She has tried one over the last two weeks and is really scared of going again - everyone there is very kind to her but she just doesn't like it. She doesn't want to join in the quizzes etc. but when they say she doesn't have to - she thinks they will say she is stupid etc.... Some people say I should make her go because once there she is 'happy' and that the social stimulation is good for her!! Mum told me that she just sits and smiles at everyone so she looks happy but really she is just waiting to be taken home. I do not believe that my mum is 'being awkward' she doesn't behave like that but she is very scared and uncomfortable in these group situations. Has anyone else been in this position, and, if so, what did you do ...?
Thank you in advance