i just called the home the nurse said she did eat better yesterday so who knows she may linger on in this hell for a while longer , mum Has been bedbound 2 years now screaming and shaking but recently still shaking mumbling words that make no sense and horrific facial tics . She can’t move a inch , they have a covid case there who has gone to hospital but I hope to visit a week Sunday .I’m sorry for what your mum is going through and the effects it has on you and family.
I assume the NH have given you ECG status but under recent guidance issues by government, under special circumstances you can have more than one essential carer. Speak to the Manager of the home and ask if your brother can visit under the circumstances.
I’ve also seen it written many times here, EOL is not the last days of life but can be the final year. Sadly for your mum it does sound like she is in the final stage so ask the home to show some compassion. COVID has made them all risk averse yet we all know, many people in care homes will die of things other than this dreadful pandemic.
Look after yourself for the weeks ahead,