My mother was formally diagnosed with Vascular Dementia nearly 3 years ago, but when talking with my brother we think her problems go back some 6 years.
My father and mother have been in the care home system for 21/2 years, but have recently (July) moved to a home closer to myself due to my health taking a down turn. Father has been put on palliative care due to prostrate cancer going into his bones, and has been invited to go on a day release to the local hospice.
Last Wednesday my husband and myself went to the home for our visit, to be greeted with mother swearing and shouting and spitting as she did so, saying she does not like where she is. Dad ignored her. I was going to leave and get a drink from the kitchen when he got agitated as I had not sat down. So we started to talk to him (shout as he has no hearing aids that work). Next minute mum takes her apron ties and fastens them around her neck and pulled tight. Husband to the rescue, I alerted the carers. When the commotion stopped we asked why she did that, "because I can".
My question is this behaviour likely to be her dementia or could it be that she is jealous of the attention that dad is having and the fact he is going out without her? They have referred her to the Dementia team for an urgent assessment.
Any thoughts appreciated.
She can't do it again as the apron has gone, much to her disgust
My father and mother have been in the care home system for 21/2 years, but have recently (July) moved to a home closer to myself due to my health taking a down turn. Father has been put on palliative care due to prostrate cancer going into his bones, and has been invited to go on a day release to the local hospice.
Last Wednesday my husband and myself went to the home for our visit, to be greeted with mother swearing and shouting and spitting as she did so, saying she does not like where she is. Dad ignored her. I was going to leave and get a drink from the kitchen when he got agitated as I had not sat down. So we started to talk to him (shout as he has no hearing aids that work). Next minute mum takes her apron ties and fastens them around her neck and pulled tight. Husband to the rescue, I alerted the carers. When the commotion stopped we asked why she did that, "because I can".
My question is this behaviour likely to be her dementia or could it be that she is jealous of the attention that dad is having and the fact he is going out without her? They have referred her to the Dementia team for an urgent assessment.
Any thoughts appreciated.
She can't do it again as the apron has gone, much to her disgust