Dad went into care 3 weeks ago. He was unsafe at home. My mother was elderly carer and only in the last 2 months agreed to carers twice a day. Now he is gone (with his chair - big space in the room) she is in an even worse state, overcome by grief. Visiting is so hard because Dad’s conversation usually centres around wanting to go home. Even when I remind her that when he was at home he wanted to go home, she still wants to ‘fix’ the situation. She has very poor mobility. It costs her a lot of energy to get there and then the whole experience is devastating. My sister and I accompany her (though holding back actually in the home) because she needs support there! The staff are wonderful. Any advice / shared experience on this would be appreciated. Currently I feel like saying just go once or twice a week. She’s in pieces. It’s heartbreaking for us all.