Dear All,
My mother has Alzheimer's, diagnosed last year but probably had it for about 4 years. She lives with my stepdad both aged 80 who cares for her. We have registered an LPA for finance and health, myself and stepfather have power of attorney.
About a year ago my mum started to refuse to pay any bills or cost towards food and other living expenses. (She has her own current account into which is paid a monthly contribution from her ex husbands , my Dad's pension, they divorced some 20 years ago)
My stepdad is paying for everything and his own savings are now dwindling away. He has asked that she contributes as she used to, she has refused and is becoming very possessive over her money and believes she should only pay for the food she eats and is saying she will eat less ( she is already very thin) to avoid costs!
I do have LPA for her finance and would like to set up a standing order from her account to his or else there is the possibility he will have no money to pay for bills etc. However she does have some capacity and will just say no , and will not care if they live in darkness and cold with no food! If I talk to her about it or indeed anything she thinks it is a conspiracy between me and her husband, my stepfather.
Any advice ? I really only need to set up a small standing order from her account to his but this now seems impossible.
Thanks in advance.
My mother has Alzheimer's, diagnosed last year but probably had it for about 4 years. She lives with my stepdad both aged 80 who cares for her. We have registered an LPA for finance and health, myself and stepfather have power of attorney.
About a year ago my mum started to refuse to pay any bills or cost towards food and other living expenses. (She has her own current account into which is paid a monthly contribution from her ex husbands , my Dad's pension, they divorced some 20 years ago)
My stepdad is paying for everything and his own savings are now dwindling away. He has asked that she contributes as she used to, she has refused and is becoming very possessive over her money and believes she should only pay for the food she eats and is saying she will eat less ( she is already very thin) to avoid costs!
I do have LPA for her finance and would like to set up a standing order from her account to his or else there is the possibility he will have no money to pay for bills etc. However she does have some capacity and will just say no , and will not care if they live in darkness and cold with no food! If I talk to her about it or indeed anything she thinks it is a conspiracy between me and her husband, my stepfather.
Any advice ? I really only need to set up a small standing order from her account to his but this now seems impossible.
Thanks in advance.