My 94 year old mother had told me that my younger brother would visit me with 'a present' and that this 'present' was identical to one she'd given to both him and my older brother.
I understood that the gift was money, and was slightly surprised because in the past she has either sent me a cheque or done a transfer with BACS. Her sight isn't good but my older brother assists her with online banking.
Anyway today my younger brother showed up. The present was a sealed envelope containing 40 £10 notes which my brother wanted me to count so that my mother could then be told she'd not made any mistake and everyone had got the same.
There was an accompanying note saying.:-
'........ I need to explain why I have all this cash.
Over the years I have gradually built up a cash fund to keep at home in case I need immediate access to money in case of sudden need. (I gradually changed all the notes into the current issue.) My intention has always been to pass this money on to you and (Older brother's name) and (Younger brother's name) if it was not needed for unexpected purposes.
There has been no need for me to spend any of it and the great majority of businesses want to be paid by card or possibly cheque. Also I have been reluctant to pay such a large sum in new notes into the bank so that I could transfer it to you by that route because the bank just possibly might ask how I acquired all these new notes! But I'm sure that you will manage to get rid of it bit by bit!'
I was rather worried to think that my mother must have had £1200 in cash in her flat.
It reminded me of my father in law who had dementia and would stuff £10 notes in his books, in case his cleaner or carer found money and stole it. (They were absolutely trustworthy and then my father in law forgot where h hid the money and worried it had been stolen.)
It just add so the feeling that my mother is not making good judgments. Neither of my brothers appear to find any problem with her behaviour at all and just say how well she is doing.
I just feel a bit hopeless and worried, despite my mother's generosity.
I would welcome other people's thoughts and ideas.
I understood that the gift was money, and was slightly surprised because in the past she has either sent me a cheque or done a transfer with BACS. Her sight isn't good but my older brother assists her with online banking.
Anyway today my younger brother showed up. The present was a sealed envelope containing 40 £10 notes which my brother wanted me to count so that my mother could then be told she'd not made any mistake and everyone had got the same.
There was an accompanying note saying.:-
'........ I need to explain why I have all this cash.
Over the years I have gradually built up a cash fund to keep at home in case I need immediate access to money in case of sudden need. (I gradually changed all the notes into the current issue.) My intention has always been to pass this money on to you and (Older brother's name) and (Younger brother's name) if it was not needed for unexpected purposes.
There has been no need for me to spend any of it and the great majority of businesses want to be paid by card or possibly cheque. Also I have been reluctant to pay such a large sum in new notes into the bank so that I could transfer it to you by that route because the bank just possibly might ask how I acquired all these new notes! But I'm sure that you will manage to get rid of it bit by bit!'
I was rather worried to think that my mother must have had £1200 in cash in her flat.
It reminded me of my father in law who had dementia and would stuff £10 notes in his books, in case his cleaner or carer found money and stole it. (They were absolutely trustworthy and then my father in law forgot where h hid the money and worried it had been stolen.)
It just add so the feeling that my mother is not making good judgments. Neither of my brothers appear to find any problem with her behaviour at all and just say how well she is doing.
I just feel a bit hopeless and worried, despite my mother's generosity.
I would welcome other people's thoughts and ideas.