i havent used this site for a long time,
when i first realised my mam had dementia i came on here a lot, i didnt post much, but i read a lot of other peoples stories.
those stories broke my heart as i realised what was coming my way. i didnt know how i was going to cope.
although i was often sobbing when i read other peoples stories, it helped me a lot, it helped me to prepare for what would happen to mam and to me as i tried to deal with it.
mam went into a care home 2 and a half years ago, the toughest decision id ever had to make, but i felt it was the right decision. i couldnt look after her and keep her safe.
unfortunately mam passed away on new years eve, she had gone into hospital when the staff thought she was unwell and had deteriorated. i knew she'd had a stroke but when the doctor came and said he thought it was a water infection, i believed him. she went to sleep on friday evening, she never woke up.
i stayed by her side in hospital and made the decision to stop the treatment and let her go....
theres no doubt in my mind that was the right decision, or that its what she would have wanted
but.... that doesnt make it any easier
my best friends, my brother and myself carried her into the crematorium on her 80th birthday...
i didnt mean to ramble on....
i came on to say...
this site helped me to prepare for what dementia does, and helped me to deal with it.
if anybody reading this hasnt got to the later stages yet, use this site and use it often.
be strong and enjoy your loved ones while you have them... its not always easy
and a big big thankyou to all who use this site and for the help i had just from reading your posts.
xx
when i first realised my mam had dementia i came on here a lot, i didnt post much, but i read a lot of other peoples stories.
those stories broke my heart as i realised what was coming my way. i didnt know how i was going to cope.
although i was often sobbing when i read other peoples stories, it helped me a lot, it helped me to prepare for what would happen to mam and to me as i tried to deal with it.
mam went into a care home 2 and a half years ago, the toughest decision id ever had to make, but i felt it was the right decision. i couldnt look after her and keep her safe.
unfortunately mam passed away on new years eve, she had gone into hospital when the staff thought she was unwell and had deteriorated. i knew she'd had a stroke but when the doctor came and said he thought it was a water infection, i believed him. she went to sleep on friday evening, she never woke up.
i stayed by her side in hospital and made the decision to stop the treatment and let her go....
theres no doubt in my mind that was the right decision, or that its what she would have wanted
but.... that doesnt make it any easier
my best friends, my brother and myself carried her into the crematorium on her 80th birthday...
i didnt mean to ramble on....
i came on to say...
this site helped me to prepare for what dementia does, and helped me to deal with it.
if anybody reading this hasnt got to the later stages yet, use this site and use it often.
be strong and enjoy your loved ones while you have them... its not always easy
and a big big thankyou to all who use this site and for the help i had just from reading your posts.
xx