1. fearful fiona

    fearful fiona Registered User

    Apr 19, 2007
    723
    London
    Dear Friends,

    Those of you who have followed my "Update on my Mum and Dad" thread will know that my Dad was taken very poorly recently.

    He died peacefully late this afternoon and it was my great privilege to be with him.

    My mother remains in the psychiatric unit of the local hospital and I will take advice from her consultant about how best to handle breaking the news to her in her currently very agitated state.

    Thank for all your support.
     
  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,100
    Kent
    Dear Fiona,

    I`m so sorry. All I can do is send you love and wish you well.
     
  3. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,429
    Ah Fiona - I'm so sorry. I know it wasn't unexpected but it's always hard.

    I'm wondering - is it necessary to tell your mother? I know it seems deceitful but if telling her is going to distress her AND she won't remember maybe it could be avoided. Just a thought anyway.

    Love
     
  4. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Fiona, what can I say. My heart goes out to you, and mum, of course.

    Thank you for thinking to bring us up to date, albeit with such sad news.
    Peaceful thoughts xxxrose.GIF


    Take care of yourself, and give yourself time to grieve before you throw yourself back into the caring role, if you can.

    Love,
     
  5. angela.robinson

    angela.robinson Registered User

    Dec 27, 2004
    520
    Dear Fi Fi, so sorry to hear that , please take some comfort that his suffering is over , i kow it has been a very hard time for you , dealing with mum and dads illnesses. My heart goes out to you having to break the news to mum , take care . luv n` hugs,Angela. xxx
     
  6. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    So sorry Fi-Fi. Thinking of you.
    Love Helen
     
  7. DeborahBlythe

    DeborahBlythe Registered User

    Dec 1, 2006
    9,222
    Oh Fiona, I'm really sorry to hear your news. You did so much for your dad and he was lucky to have you as a daughter.Sending you and your family very sincere condolences, and kindest regards. Deborah x
     
  8. gigi

    gigi Registered User

    Nov 16, 2007
    7,788
    East Midlands
    #8 gigi, Feb 27, 2008
    Last edited: Feb 27, 2008
    Dear Fiona...

    Just read your news and am so sorry..
    I too felt privileged to be with my dad at the end..hoping your mum will be ok..
    My condolences and best wishes to you and you family..

    Love Gigi xx
     
  9. Taffy

    Taffy Registered User

    Apr 15, 2007
    1,314
    Dear Fiona,

    I am sorry to hear about your dad passing away.

    Deepest Sympathy, Love Taffy.
     
  10. Tina

    Tina Registered User

    May 19, 2006
    420
    Dear Fifi,

    so sorry to hear your sad news. Take good care.
    Love, Tina
     
  11. Westie

    Westie Registered User

    Dear Fiona, I'm so sorry to hear about your sad news.

    Mary-Ann
    x
     
  12. Brucie

    Brucie Registered User

    Jan 31, 2004
    12,413
    near London
    Hello Fifi

    Terribly sorry to hear your news. My condolences to you and all your family.

    I echo what Jennifer has said - do you really need to tell Mum?
     
  13. Cate

    Cate Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    1,370
    Newport, Gwent
    Dear Fiona

    I am so sorry to see your sad news. My condolences to you and all your family.

    Love

    Cate
     
  14. clarethebear

    clarethebear Registered User

    Oct 16, 2007
    197
    manchester, uk
    Hi Fiona

    I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of your father. My thoughts are with both you and your family at this sat time.

    Take Care
    Clare
     
  15. nickyd

    nickyd Registered User

    Oct 20, 2007
    146
    warwickshire
    Dear Fiona,
    So, sorry to hear this sad, sad news.
    Sending you lots of Love to you, your Mum and Family,
    Take Care,
     
  16. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Dear Fifi

    I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of your father. It was good that you were able to be with him at the end.

    It's such a hard time for you, with your mum so ill. I'd echo the others, and suggest not telling her. If you do, and she forgets, she's going to have so many upsetting times over the next few months. But of course you know your mum best.

    Take care of yourself now, and try not to do too much. You need your strength.

    Love,
     
  17. jillikins

    jillikins Registered User

    Feb 25, 2008
    11
    Hi Fiona
    So sorry to hear your sad news
    Love and kindness to you and your mum.
     
  18. Mameeskye

    Mameeskye Registered User

    Aug 9, 2007
    1,669
    NZ
    Dear Fiona

    (((((((hugs))))))

    Words are not enough at a time like this. Like you I was lucky enough to be allowed to be with my Dad when he died, something I have always been "glad" about.

    I do not know what is best for your Mum but I am sure that you will find the least painful solution for her. Your Dad would understand.

    Thoughts are with you and your family

    Love

    Mameeskye
     
  19. taylorcat

    taylorcat Registered User

    Jun 18, 2006
    171
    W.Scotland
    Sorry to hear your news, Fiona. I am in a similar position and was so "grateful" I was able to be with Dad at the end.

    I haven't told Mum and don't intend to, although she somehow knows.
     
  20. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,057
    Toronto, Canada
    Dear Fiona,
    My condolences to you and your family. I think it will be a great comfort to you that you were there with him. Take care of yourself.
    Love,
     

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