Hello TPers, I visited my Mum in her care home today and I just wanted to share my visit. Mum was having a "foggy day". She has been quite with it for 3 days so it was not unexpected. She was lying down so I went to her room and made her a coffee to perk her up. She had her coffee and chatted for about 30 minutes about nothing in particular. I then walked with her to the lounge where she found 2 of her friends, so I left her there chatting and came home. Mums had life long mental illness and I have never really known her to be happy, and Im 49. She first told me she wanted to die when I was 6. Its been a hard road. I never thought it could ever be good or easy. So to all the others on this journey it can be OK. Care homes are not all terrible places. Many carers are loving and devoted. Staying home is not always the best option. And when you visit like me, every day, several other little old ladies and men become your family too. I dont think I have ever gone anywhere that so many people are happy to see me. They are all happy so the staff are certainly getting it right.