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My husband has suffered with Alzheimer's for 11yrs.

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by Wishy, May 27, 2016.

  1. Wishy

    Wishy Registered User

    May 27, 2016
    1
    My husband has now started reading every sign posts and every Lorry or van and also reading every thing that is written on the t.v. Screen
    Any ideas why this has started and what I can do to distract him . It has started to get on my nerves
     
  2. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,233
    Female
    Dundee
    Oh goodness I'm sorry but that made me smile. My mum had vascular dementia and she did exactly the same. It drove me up the wall! My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 15 years ago and would you believe that not long after mum died he started doing it. I never found a way to distract them or stop it. My husband doesn't communicate much at all now so we don't have it anymore. Sorry no advice- just much sympathy. :rolleyes:
     
  3. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,629
    Female
    London
    OH was like that. He was reading me the posters on the tube and the subtitles on TV and in the cinema.... The latter was not just distracting me but disturbing others so I basically shushed him and clamped my hand over his mouth to shut him up. That was the only thing that helped!

    He's not doing it anymore as he's basically stopped speaking apart from very short sentences, which I now find sadder than any subtitle reading, to be honest.

    I think the reason is that it's more difficult for them to understand written signs so they read them out loud. When it gets too hard trying to understand or making themselves understood, they more or less stop speaking altogether.
     
  4. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    9,880
    Female
    South coast
    There was a lady in mums CH like that. It made me smile because she would tell everyone over and over that she "couldnt see a dicky bird" and would then read all the signs on the wall!
    It seemed to be almost like a reflex reaction - she would see the words and say them and didnt seem to have any control over it.
     
  5. marionq

    marionq Registered User

    Apr 24, 2013
    5,748
    Female
    Scotland
    Yes. John does this all the time. Worse - if I'm reading in bed he decides to read me bits out of the tabloid which is the only type of newspaper he can follow nowadays. I put up with poster reading but if I'm deep in a book it feels like an attack when I'm interrupted! I think the Kindle I use particularly leads to this as he doesn't understand what I'm doing.

    The book I'm enjoying at present is William Boyd's Sweet Caress.
     
  6. irismary

    irismary Registered User

    Feb 7, 2015
    499
    West Midlands
    My husband did it for a while but not so much now. He gives me a running commentary about the cars around us when I'm driving instead and calls me every time there is a bird in the garden or someone walking past the house. Seems like if its not one thing its something else.
     
  7. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    Mum does this a little. I think it's because it's something she does understand, on the whole, whereas so much else is beyond her now.
     
  8. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    Hi Wishy, and welcome to Talking Point. :) My husband used to do this when he was in the middle stages, and it lasted for a few months. I think it was his way of proving to himself that he could still read. When he did it correctly, I used to just murmur "that's right".

    I became quite good at murmuring, and if he was wrong, I'd just murmur, without actually saying anything. ;) I know it can get on your nerves, but it may be that your hubby too wants to assure himself that he can still do this.
     
  9. stanleypj

    stanleypj Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    10,629
    North West
    Annoying as this is undoubtedly is, I bet I'm not the only one who looks back sadly to the time when my partner still had the ability to read and speak. If someone could transport us back there I reckon I could put up with the repetition.
     
  10. elizabeth hc

    elizabeth hc Registered User

    Oct 31, 2012
    49
    My OH would tell me every house that was up for sale! Every trip in the car was a running commentary. Drove me nuts but he has moved on now number plates. Very interesting!
     

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