Good morning Pevensey, just caught up with your posts. this is the worst part, sorting out seems impossible.
Think of it as the final push of getting ready before a holiday, keep the idea of the future like a carrot on a stick.
Detached yourself mentally, like GrannieG, says. You have a job to do, imagine how to tackle it as if you are being paid. Keep cool, keep calm and keep on.
Care homes are the best place, my experience of one i am having a fly on the wall stay in, is that it takes a team not one person to handle difficult people. Many are happier because they are secure.
You are a brave person to have stuck it out.
Tell him he will have a bevy of young girls to look to his needs, men seem to settle easier than women.
Take care, it will not be long, it just seems it is at the time. Xxx