Thank you everyone. I do hope you all understand, this is very difficult for me to even find the right words. Firstly my friend & her husband are not an elderly couple if i can say that in a very polite way. Second, yes i`m English but she is not, which means she has no friends or family near by to help her deal with this. Due to this fact, i feel, and i can only say the way i`m viewing it, that`s its so so easy for her, to not even except anything is wrong. She seems to be very angry at the hospital for just telling them that he has Vascular Dementia and sending them on their way. Its so so difficult for me to even speak to her at the moment. Its like she wants to, but then again don`t wish to. I`m trying my best to push her very very slowly to groups such as this. This is going to be very very difficult for her as she is not in her own country. I do have very big fears for her, i really do. I have no real idea of what stage you would say he is at. Its memory, and lack of can`t remember his own address. I joined this group as i need to speak to people like yourselves in hope you can guide me along and also hopefully she will join, when she is ready. Thank you for your replies