I am a new member, my wife has AD which started about 3 years ago,and coupled with IBS and immobility due to hip replacement makes her (our) life not very jolly, but you don't have to look very far on TP to find that somebody is worse off than yourself, so we all have something to be thankful for. My immediate problem is my wife asking for her mum almost every day, (her mum died 37 years ago) and when I tell her it's like a new berevement and she is very upset but AD steps in and about ten minutes later it's all forgotten, it's heartbreaking to see her so upset, but what can I do, is there a way around it?..... without telling lies. We have been married 59 years in August and I still love her so very much. I have been reading through TP, and I get a distinct feeling of ' family ',you are all so kind and caring. I have booked my wife into a nursing home for one weeks respite in July and I'm looking forward to getting some sleep, my social services are very helpful, they have a scheme where I can get vouchers to have a care worker sit with my wife for an hour or so while I go shopping or keep an appointment etc, it's very handy. Bye for now, 'til the next post, George, ( gh001g9494 ).