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My dearest husband has passed away

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by di65, Jun 21, 2019.

  1. di65

    di65 Registered User

    Feb 28, 2013
    772
    new zealand
    I haven’t posted here in a while, but I have been following a few posts. On the 4th of June my husband was finally relieved of this terrible disease. He had a massive brain bleed and seizure on the 31st of May. He was taken to the hospital where he held on until the 4th June. The hospital staff were so lovely and also provided me and a family member with sleeping arrangements in his room. His heart was so strong, even given the other issues . My family and friends have been an awesome support, and I am so grateful to them all. Even though he had been in care for 4 years, I feel so lonely - he’s not there if I need to go and see him at any time. I had a holiday booked and paid for, so am going to still go, hopefully it will help me heal.
     
  2. imthedaughter

    imthedaughter Registered User

    Apr 3, 2019
    67
    So sorry for your loss. I hope you can enjoy your time away, at least a change of scene may give you a break. Take care of yourself.
     
  3. nae sporran

    nae sporran Volunteer Host

    Oct 29, 2014
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    Male
    Bristol
    #3 nae sporran, Jun 21, 2019
    Last edited: Jun 21, 2019
    So sorry for your loss, and the loneliness di65. I hope your holiday does help you.
     
  4. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,594
    Female
    Dundee
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength.
     
  5. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,591
    Kent
    My condolences @di65.
     
  6. marionq

    marionq Registered User

    Apr 24, 2013
    5,860
    Female
    Scotland
    I hope your holiday will lift your spirits after your loss. Best wishes.
     
  7. AliceA

    AliceA Registered User

    May 27, 2016
    2,419
    I am so sorry, it must be so tough. Alice x
     
  8. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    8,051
    Yorkshire
    sad news @di65
    your husband is now free of dementia
    it takes time for those left to find their way to a different life
    I hope your holiday helps
     
  9. Philbo

    Philbo Registered User

    Feb 28, 2017
    689
    Male
    Kent
    Hello @di65

    Sorry for your loss - hope that your holiday helps you cope at this sad time.

    Best wishes
    Phil
     
  10. nellbelles

    nellbelles Volunteer Host

    Nov 6, 2008
    8,409
    leicester
    My sincere condolences for your loss, wishing you strength for the future
     
  11. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Registered User

    Apr 1, 2016
    3,035
    Nottinghamshire
    I'm sorry for your loss. I hope the holiday gives you time to start healing.
     
  12. jaymor

    jaymor Volunteer Moderator

    Jul 14, 2006
    12,497
    Female
    England
    So sorry for your loss, wishing you strength.
     
  13. lis66

    lis66 Registered User

    Aug 7, 2015
    260
    So sorry for your loss take care hope your holiday helps you xx
     
  14. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,111
    Toronto, Canada
    My condolences to you and your family.
     
  15. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,217
    Merseyside
    I’m so sorry @di65. My thoughts are with you.
     
  16. Jale

    Jale Registered User

    Jul 9, 2018
    272
    Female
    So sorry for your loss - I hope that you are able to go on your holiday, and that it helps you through these difficult and sad times. Sending some hugs
     
  17. Just me

    Just me Registered User

    Nov 17, 2013
    81
    Sorry to hear your sad news. I hope your holiday helps you heal x
     
  18. campervan21

    campervan21 Registered User

    May 4, 2017
    173
    Sorry for your loss, thoughts are with you
     
  19. MAMMYGRANNY

    MAMMYGRANNY Registered User

    Jan 26, 2016
    57
    I am so sorry for your loss Di. Such a long and lonely road for you, you really took such good care of your husband over the years of this dreadful illness.
    Wishing you strength in your grief.
     
  20. jugglingmum

    jugglingmum Registered User

    Jan 5, 2014
    5,190
    Female
    Chester
    Di I am so sorry to read this. Sending you a hug.

    The care home took great care of him and you over the years.

    I hope you get something out of your holiday.

    When our son died (stillborn) the priest suggested a holiday, and I realise that the circumstances are completely different but suspect he said this a lot, as he said the change of scenery would help us rebuild. I hope this is how it works for you.
     

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