1. maryw

    maryw Registered User

    Nov 16, 2008
    3,805
    Surrey
    So sorry to read your sad news xx


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  2. Casbow

    Casbow Registered User

    Sep 3, 2013
    989
    Colchester
    Oh Gringo what sad news. I am so sorry for your loss. Take comfort from the fact that no one could have been a better husband and carer than you. You never let her down. You were always there. I wish you peace and hope the days ahead, will go smoothly for you.Love to you xx
     
  3. notsogooddtr

    notsogooddtr Registered User

    Jul 2, 2011
    820
    Deepest sympathy on your sad loss.
     
  4. jugglingmum

    jugglingmum Registered User

    Jan 5, 2014
    5,073
    Female
    Chester
    Sorry to hear of your loss of your much loved wife.

    Your love for her has shone through all your posts together with your despair at slowly having her wrenched away by this wretched disease. x
     
  5. gringo

    gringo Registered User

    Feb 1, 2012
    1,189
    UK.
    Such kindness and compassion. I am ashamed because for some time now, I have read and sorrowed over so many posts, but I have not offered any support. Yet in my time of trouble I am treated with such consideration. Whether I will be able to be more helpful in the future, I don't know. The spirit is willing but the flesh is very weak. But thank-you all for your messages, especially from those who have been through this nightmare themselves and know only too well the all-encompassing blackness and feeling of utter desolation.
    Of course I knew it must happen ‘one day’, and I believed I was well prepared. Theory is one thing; practise is another. In the event nothing could have prepared me for the gut-wrenching, heart-breaking moment of the actual event and the over-whelming waves of grief that wash over and over.
    I am now in denial and cannot believe it has happened. I keep preparing to go for my usual visits only to sit in tears when an inner voice tells me that I have no-one to visit anymore.
    In time I trust I shall accept and take comfort from the truth that she is now, at long last, at peace and will not suffer anymore.
    For the present though, I believe that, where-ever she may be, she will be as devastated as I am that we have been torn apart.
     
  6. Casbow

    Casbow Registered User

    Sep 3, 2013
    989
    Colchester
    Dear Gringo. If I haven't learned anything else I have learned the absolute wonder and kindness of the people on here. And you my friend are one of them. Do not apologise for spending the most precious last hours, days , months with your lovely wife. You cannot cope with everyone else's heartache as well as your own. We are here for you like you are here for us. Please post when your dear wife is laid to rest and you feel a bit stronger. My heart is with you. xxx
     
  7. CeliaW

    CeliaW Registered User

    Jan 29, 2009
    5,655
    Hampshire
    Don't feel ashamed Gringo, I am sure everyone would agree that you contribute to the forum in many ways - we all bring different things to the site and our individual contributions make up the whole.

    I am sure these are sad and lonely times, I hope you are getting support from friends and family.

    Supportive hugs for you, take care x

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  8. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,444
    Female
    Dundee
    Gringo I do hope you stay with TP. I have found the support given by everyone following my husband's death invaluable.

    You will be on an emotional rollercoaster for some time. There always be someone here for your ups and downs over the coming weeks and months.

    Wishing you strength.
     
  9. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    22,501
    Female
    Near Southampton
    We, who have been there, cannot take away your grief nor the sense of utter loss Gringo but we can listen and we can understand if that is of any help to you.
    Please stay and let us try to help you through the darkness. x
     
  10. jan.s

    jan.s Registered User

    Sep 20, 2011
    7,352
    I'm with you too Gringo. I know how devoted you and your lovely wife were to each other, and I also understand the utter devastation of the parting, but I always feel that Roger is with me, in my heart and in my head. He will never leave me, and I am sure it is true for you and your beautiful lady.

    Thinking of you x
     
  11. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,402
    Kent
    I`m sure she will gringo. I`m sure she will.

    I don`t think you are in denial, I think you are in shock. As you said, however much we know the eventuality of this illness, it doesn`t make it any easier to bear when it happens.
     
  12. sue38

    sue38 Registered User

    Mar 6, 2007
    10,856
    Wigan, Lancs
    Gringo, I'm so sorry to hear about your wife.

    I hope you will feel able to continue to come to TP for support.
     
  13. gringo

    gringo Registered User

    Feb 1, 2012
    1,189
    UK.
    You never said I’m leaving
    You never said good-bye
    You were gone before I knew it
    And only God knows why
    Many times I’ve needed you,
    And many times I’ve cried.
    If love alone could’ve saved you,
    You never would have died.
    In life I loved you dearly,
    In death I love you still.
    In my heart you hold a place,
    No one can ever fill.
    It broke my heart to lose you,
    But you didn’t go alone.
    Part of me went with you,
    The day God took you home


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  14. jan.s

    jan.s Registered User

    Sep 20, 2011
    7,352
    That is so beautiful Gringo. She was one lucky lady to have you. The love you shared will never die x
     
  15. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    22,501
    Female
    Near Southampton
    I started to post here last night but left it as you didn't need my tears. You have expressed your loss so beautifully Gringo. I feel for you. x
     
  16. gringo

    gringo Registered User

    Feb 1, 2012
    1,189
    UK.
    Envoi.

    Peacefully, without any fuss she quietly went to her rest.
    Her pains and confusion all thankfully taken away.
    No lies are needed to tell of the tranquil beauty i beheld.
    The tide carried her away as I watched, standing alone on the shore.

    1/6/2017
     
  17. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,402
    Kent
    Rest in peace.
     
  18. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    22,501
    Female
    Near Southampton
    Rest in peace indeed and I hope you too can find some peace Gringo.x
     
  19. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,174
    Merseyside
    I wish you strength & peace Gringo.
     
  20. Dazmum

    Dazmum Registered User

    I'm so sorry Gringo, you and your wife were so lucky to have each other xxxx
     

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