My darling Ken

[BeckyJan]

Enough is enough for one man to bear.

-- and more than enough for a loving, caring wife to bear.

If there is a blessing at all in this, your Ken is not in pain and he will not have to suffer the end stage of dementia.

The care home sound great, David's place will also nurse to the end and at least I know there I can be part of that - I hope you feel that too.

My thoughts go with you.

 

[jenniferpa]

Tina - my love to you and Ken at this very difficult time. As Jan said you both have been given too much to bear.

Love

 

[Jancis]

Dear Tina,
I can only send you a prayer - that Ken will not suffer yet more pain and you and family continue to find your marvelous strength through your love.

 

[Mameeskye]

Tina


(((((hugs)))) It would not be an easy day for you, but it sounds as if you have a good team supporting you and Ken. Hope that he can be kept as comfortable as possible.

Love

Mameeskye

 

[beech mount]

As you say Tina,Enough is enough for one man to bear,and i would add for one woman also,it is so cruel.
John.

 

[larivy]

im glad you have all the support the care home sounds so kind and thoughtful hope Ken stays pain free thinking of you both love larivy

 

[TinaT]

Thank you, all of you! It truely is a difficult time for me. Ken has no understanding of his situation and I'm glad of that.

The Care Home have been wonderful and have even offered to put a bed for me in Ken's room when I need it.

My son Matthew came with me to the specialist. It was a good thing for me but a bad thing for him as it brought back many painful memories of his lovely wife who died of leukaemia. He was very brave but I know today has been very hard for him too.

God bless us all, every one of us on this hard, hard journey we are all on.

xxTinaT

 

[gigi]

Hello Tina,

I've just logged on to catch up with things and read your devastating news...I'm so sorry.

The blessing is that Ken is unaware and currently is comfortable and the CH are willing and able to support you both.

My heart goes out to you, Tina. You have given such a lot of yourself over the last few years to care for Ken.

Wishing you and your family the strength to see this through.

Love xx

 

[connie]

Dearest Tina, words seem inadequate somehow.

I am so pleased that you have the support of Ken's home. Yes, I guess it was hard for Matthew today, but am so glad that you had him for support.

Sending you my love, as always.

 

[Skye]

Enough is enough for one man to bear.

Dear Tina

I'm sitting here in floods of tears. How much more is your family going to have thrown at it? I feel I know Matthew too, though of course we've never met, and this must be so hard for him too.

You have had so much to bear, and you've been incredibly strong. You have cared for Ken in a way that is an example to us all, and I know you'll do everything in your power to make sure he doesn'e suffer.

Sending thoughts and prayers for peace for you all,

Love,

 

[sue38]

I suspect (in fact I'm pretty damn sure) this is so much harder on you and your family than it is on Ken.

If there any positives to be drawn they are that Ken is unaware of the diagnosis, that all attempts will be made to keep him pain free, and that he will stay where people know and care for him.

My love to you, Ken and your family xx

 

[florence43]

Dear Tina,

You can never be prepared and my heart breaks for you and your family. I wish Ken comfort, peace and blissful ignorance, and to you and your son, I wish you strength and acceptance.

There are no words that can ease your sadness. I'm so sorry.

Sending lots of love, support and sympathy,

 

[Grannie G]

Dear Tina

Ken has suffered enough. You have suffered enough.

I sincerely hope Ken is spared further suffering and any pain he might have will be stopped before it starts.
I know I can`t hope the same for you. I`m really sorry. xx

 

[Izzy]

I'm so sorry Tina. Thinking of you both. x

 

[susiesue]

So sorry Tina and thinking of you both at this very sad time.

Love

 

[maryw]

Dear Tina, so very sorry, it must be very difficult for you all. Take care xx

 

[zoet]

Such very sad news Tina, Im so sorry. Thinking of you and your family, Zoe xxx

 

[milly123]

tina so sorry to hear about ken you are both in my thoughts and prayers will be thinking of you in the comeing weeks milly

 

[sad nell]

Tina am lost for words of comfort on reading this sad news but shall pray that all of your family are given the strength you need and that your Lovely Ken remains pain free, so good that the home will support you both, Tina I am just picturing in my mind a photo you posted some time ago . think you were a fortune teller and Ken a cow boy, it remains very vivid in my mind and showed the love you feel for each other, hope that love gives you some comfort . love Pam

 

[TinaT]

I remember the photo well Pam! It was New Year's Eve 2005 and we were in a hotel in Blackpool with my mother and Betty. The hotel organised a wonderful fancy dress party. Thanks for reminding me of the photo Pam and thanks to all of you for your kind wishes and supportive messages.

I always try to arrange something or another on NY Eve for Ken because New Year's Day is his birthday. We always kiss happy New Year and Happy Birthday at the same moment. Last New Year's Eve I got up a spur of the moment party for Ken at home. I wonder if you remember my writing about that? It was almost the last time we were completely happy together.

I'm struggling hard with my emotions. This morning Ken picked up quickly on a look on my face and asked me if there was something wrong. He knows me so well and although I try hard to let him see me always calm and smiling, he seems to be able to read my feeling even now, although he can hardly keep half a though in his head for more than a second.

xxTinaT