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My darling husband has gone to rest,he is whole again

Discussion in 'Younger people with dementia and their carers' started by daizee, Jun 18, 2006.

  1. daizee

    daizee Registered User

    Mar 31, 2006
    51
    Broken Hill, Australia
    On the 16th of June at 3 in the morning my most precious and darling husband passed away. I lay beside him with my arms around his, holding his hand and my head on his chest and waited as his dear heart stopped beating.I felt quiet and peacful as I knew his struggle was over. After my children said their last goodbye I closed the door behind them, we had our last moments , I washed him and shaved him and dressed him in the clothes he had always worn when we went,then I just smiled at him and said,We did it darling, together we did it . He is free at last, he left our house as the man he has always been strong and proud.The whole house felt so warm and happy as if he was radiating a huge warm and loving smile that just filled us with peace and happiness and the feeling that everything was right ,he was where he should be ,free and whole and after all these long sad years, back with us again .Each time saddness over takes us we just think of his beautiful smile and the way we felt that day. The day before he died I took a small lock of his hair to wear in a locket around my neck, to feel him close to me , but I do not feel alone .He is with me and I will always love himand feel the love he felt so much for me. He will always be my darling husband as death hasn't parted us ,we are just apart for a while......................Thanks to all Bye Daizee
     
  2. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    Oh Daizee,
    I am so sorry that your husband has died, but it sounds so beautiful. I am so pleased that his death was that of the strong proud man that you loved. Thank you for sharing with us. I am sure that I am not alone in saying that you are an inspiration. Thank you.
    Much love,
    Helen
     
  3. Lucille

    Lucille Registered User

    Sep 10, 2005
    542
    Dear Daizee

    I am so sorry to hear about your husband. Your poignant description of his passing moved me to tears.

    Draw strength from the good times you shared; until you meet again.

    Take care
     
  4. cynron

    cynron Registered User

    Sep 26, 2005
    429
    east sussex
    Daizee.
    What a lovely post my key board was awash with tears. So pleased your felt at peace when he passed away.

    Love Cynron x x
     
  5. chrisply

    chrisply Registered User

    Jun 18, 2006
    2
    Surrey UK
    #5 chrisply, Jun 18, 2006
    Last edited: Jun 18, 2006
    Dear Daizee,
    I only started reading about your husband`s struggle today, and replied to one of your earlier threads. I am devastated by your sad news and the tears are flowing for your husband and mine. I am so so sorry. He was a very lucky man to have someone as caring as you. I know you have many friends here and I am sure we don`t want this to be a final goodbye from you. Come back for support whenever you feel low. Let all the support carry you through the sad bad times.
    A big hug from chrisply. xxxx
     
  6. rummy

    rummy Registered User

    Jul 15, 2005
    700
    Oklahoma,USA
    God Bless and keep you Daizee. Thank you for sharing your precious story with us and being such an inspiration.
    Thinking of you.
    Debbie
     
  7. Norman

    Norman Registered User

    Oct 9, 2003
    4,348
    Birmingham Hades
    Daizee
    your post made me feel very sad.
    I hope I can be as brave as you when the time comes
    Norman
     
  8. Nutty Nan

    Nutty Nan Registered User

    Nov 2, 2003
    785
    Buckinghamshire
    Thank you for your moving message, Daisy, you are a very special person and I send you my condolences and best wishes - may you and your family continue to find consolation in your wonderful memories of your husband's love.
    Take care and 'god bless'.
     
  9. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Dear Daizee
    I'm so glad you were with your husband until the end
    Thinking of you
    Sending you lots of love
    Wendy
    x
     
  10. PatH

    PatH Registered User

    Feb 14, 2005
    301
    N.Ireland
    Dear Daizee,
    I am so moved by your post. I send my love to you and your family.
    Pat
     
  11. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Dear daizee, thank you for sharing your precious last minutes with us.

    You are inspirational. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
     
  12. alex

    alex Registered User

    Apr 10, 2006
    1,665
    Sorry

    Dear Daizee

    I am sorry to hear you have lost your husband, i know how you are feeling at the moment as it is one week tonight since i lost mine.
    I am sure that you will have some emotional times ahead but your lovely memories will carry you through.

    Stay strong.
    Alex
     
  13. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    1,157
    daizee,

    sending you and your family my love and condolences, i hope the peace your feeling will stay with you, such a moving post
    thinking of you
     
  14. McK

    McK Registered User

    Sep 13, 2005
    62
    Pgh. Pa. USA
    Love

    Dear Daizee, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family today. You expressed the true meaning of love in the way you expressed your feelings and emotions at this sacred time that you will carry with you for the rest of your life. - McK
     
  15. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    5,379
    NW England
    What to say, Daizee? Even at this time you are an inspiration and so brave and selfless to post such a message.....

    Tears - yes lots of them - just from behind this PC - and with every one a prayer for you and yours.

    With love, Karen (TF)
     
  16. Libby

    Libby Registered User

    May 20, 2006
    625
    North East
    Dear Daizee

    I was so saddened to hear of your loss but feel truly inspired by what you have written. Your children are truly lucky to have such parents.

    Libs
     
  17. Linda Mc

    Linda Mc Registered User

    Jul 3, 2005
    1,881
    Nr Mold
    Just wanted to say how sorry I am and sending you a hug.

    Linda x
     
  18. catm

    catm Registered User

    Jun 13, 2006
    14
    Merseyside
    I hope peace and many happy memories of your husband will be with you all always, and that with them you remember the joy of having loved and been loved by a great man.

    Thank you so much for sharing this. My prayers are with you all.

    Cat.
     
  19. angela.robinson

    angela.robinson Registered User

    Dec 27, 2004
    520
    box full

    daizee ,tried to PM you , your box is full and needs emptying ,angela.x
     
  20. alfjess

    alfjess Registered User

    Jul 10, 2006
    1,213
    south lanarkshire
    sorry

    Hi Daizee
    Very very sorry for your sad loss, thank you for sharing.
    Alfjess
     

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