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  1. claire43

    claire43 Registered User

    Jul 11, 2013
    South Wales
    My poor dad finally stopped fighting and died 3 hours ago. Not sure how I feel. Sad obviously but also relieved hes not struggling and suffering any more. Is this normal?
  2. nellbelles

    nellbelles Volunteer Host

    Nov 6, 2008
    Sorry to read your sad news, but he is now at peace.
  3. chris53

    chris53 Registered User

    Nov 9, 2009
    Oh claire am so sorry you have lost your beloved dad, the feeling of loss and knowing he is now at peace may take some time to hit home, may you have good memories of him when he was well and they will give you strength in the days to come.
    God bless you and dad
    Chris x
  4. theunknown

    theunknown Registered User

    Apr 17, 2015
    Whatever you're feeling is normal, Claire. Remember to think of yourself whilst you're caring for other people. Thinking of you x
  5. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength.
  6. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    My accept my condolences.
  7. Tears Falling

    Tears Falling Registered User

    Jul 8, 2013
    :(h sorry to read your news. :(
  8. Deputypink

    Deputypink Registered User

    Aug 4, 2013
    #8 Deputypink, Dec 27, 2015
    Last edited: Dec 27, 2015
    There is no normal - it is what is good for you ! My Dad died last Monday and I have felt periods of complete relief and then overwhelmed at life without him . I can definitely sympathise with you . Sending you virtual support !
  9. nannylondon

    nannylondon Registered User

    Apr 7, 2014
    My deepest condolences to you xx
  10. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    Totally normal! ( my OH died in July). Please accept my condolences.
  11. Ameliasmama

    Ameliasmama Registered User

    Oct 24, 2015
    I'm sorry for your loss Clare xx

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  12. Gigglemore

    Gigglemore Registered User

    Oct 18, 2013
    British Isles
    So sorry for your loss Claire but relieved that your poor dad is now at peace. Watching his struggle must have been so very hard for you. Wishing you strength as you grieve and hoping that memories of happier times you spent with him will gradually replace the sad memories of his last days. Take care.
  13. lin1

    lin1 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2010
    East Kent
    So sorry for your loss. My Condolences to you and your family.
    All emotions including numbness are normal when you are grieving , so please try not to worry about the way you feel at anytime, it's just the way you need to be at that time.

  14. sleepless

    sleepless Registered User

    Feb 19, 2010
    The Sweet North
    Sending my condolences, and wishing you comfort in your loss. That your dad's peace should be your peace is perfectly natural, and any way you feel is normal.
  15. Kristivazq

    Kristivazq Registered User

    Jun 6, 2015
    I am so very sorry

    I am so very sorry Claire. I know how you feel. Although I have to say that the relief that he is no longer suffering has been overshadowed by the sorrow of his loss both in death and the loss of him to Alzheimer's disease. I wish you peace, comfort and strength in these awful days ahead.

  16. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    So sorry for your loss.
  17. wobbly

    wobbly Registered User

    Feb 14, 2012
    Mid Wales
    sorry for your loss Claire.....
  18. Quilty

    Quilty Registered User

    Aug 28, 2014
    So sorry claire. The worry of how he is may be gone but you now have time to remember him as he was. My dad died after a long hard battle with cancer. I struggled for months to get those last weeks out of my head. I had nightmares and flashbacks. A friend gave me wonderful advice. To get a great photo of dad when he looked very happy and look at that every morning and every night. It took months but now when i imagine him i see that photo. You have been through a lot. You dont need to be brave anymore. Be kind to yourself. What ever you feel is ok for you. Sending you a big hug for strength. Love quilty.
  19. Vickyvlr

    Vickyvlr Registered User

    Dec 28, 2015
    Hi, I lost my grandfather last Monday evening and I can totally relate to how you feel. I almost feel guilty for being so happy that he has left us now.... but I am happy that he is free of his disease and the torment it brought him xxx
  20. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    Welcome to TP :)
    I'm so sorry about your grandad.

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