1. Belleooo

    Belleooo Registered User

    My 83 year old Dad was diagnosed with dementia with Lewy bodies 3/4 years ago and I bought him into our home and became his full time carer. In November, he was admitted to hospital with bowel blockage. On xray they found a mass in his bowels. So suspected bowel cancer. Said he was too fragile to investigate further and basically sent him home once nursing care was completed. The bowel thing wasn't very pleasant. What came from there was nasty, and his tummy was forever making horrible grumbles. He was in pullups to control leakage. However it wasn't the bowel cancer, or the heart disease he had been plagued with for some 20 years. It was dementia that dominated our daily lives. What a cruel and wicked disease. Robbed a man of his memories. Of his family, because final months he had no idea whom we were. He was being spoon fed. And was in a constant state of confusion. Last night I put him to bed at 10.30pm, unusually late for him. He was sat up and seemed alert even though he had a distant and confused look about him. I walked him to his room. Emptied his catheter, and he complained of pain whilst rubbing his chest. I laid him down but could tell this was serious. I comforted him, gave him his spray and he lost consciousness. 50 minutes later his death was declared. In a way I'm pleased it ended this way. Though my heart is broken. A death due to bowel cancer or Dementia would have been cruel. Heart Attack saved him from this cruel cruel fate that we knew was awaiting him. God bless Dad x
     
  2. Benrese

    Benrese Registered User

    Apr 12, 2014
    186
    Lancashire
    Oh, Belleooo!

    I am so sorry for all of it. It was cruel and unkind, indeed. But yes, I agree, your Dad had the last word in how he was going out. Bless you.



     
  3. Soobee

    Soobee Registered User

    Aug 22, 2009
    2,734
    South
    sorry to read about your dad's passing.
     
  4. Loganberry

    Loganberry Registered User

    Apr 23, 2011
    17
    Newcastle upon Tyne
    So sorry, thinking of you.
     
  5. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    58,720
    Female
    Dundee
    Oh Belleooo how sad. As you say at least the end was quick. Sending my condolences.
     
  6. DIANE69

    DIANE69 Registered User

    Jan 7, 2014
    45
    wirral
    I am so sorry.Yes a wicked cruel disease.When I remember my husband I try to forget those last horrible months and concentrate on all my pre dementia memories.
     
  7. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    So sorry for your loss xx

    Ange
     
  8. Gigglemore

    Gigglemore Registered User

    Oct 18, 2013
    526
    British Isles
    Condolences on the loss of your dad, wishing you and your family strength for the days ahead as you grieve his sudden loss.
     
  9. Pickles53

    Pickles53 Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    2,482
    Radcliffe on Trent
    So sorry to hear you have lost your dad. I hope that it comforts you that you were with him. Sending my sympathy to you and your family.
     
  10. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,535
    North East England
    I am so sorry to hear this, please accept my sincere condolences. This disease is so very cruel.
     
  11. Herbaltea

    Herbaltea Registered User

    Jul 23, 2012
    14
    Sending condolences, so sad.
     

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