Hi everybody, I'm knew to this and haven't had a chance to introduce myself yet. We are in a bit of a dilemma at the moment so i have jumped straight in to see if anybody can offer any advice that might help us today.
My dad was diagnosed with Vascular dementia and Alzheimers earlier this week, it wasn't a shock as he has been showing symptoms for a time now but it took quite a while to get him to go to the doctors.
He has been having periods of time when he doesn't know who my mom is and referring to her in the third person but these periods have been only occasionally and quite short when they do occur. However, so far today, since getting up, he has had no idea who my mom is and has asked her to leave before his wife gets back, asked for the house keys as he's going to sell the house and said that my mom will create problems in his marriage.
My mom phoned me and i spoke to my dad on the phone and he knew who i was straight away. He told me about the terrible situation that he was in with this other woman in the house and was none too happy. My mom was understandably beside herself about what to do and getting very upset.
I have a virus illness at the moment and didn't want to pass it on and make matters worse so my husband has gone over to set up their new tv and see how things are. My dad recognised my husband and has been chatting to him about the football etc but he still doesn't know who my mom is.
I have spoken to my dad again and he has said that some of the steam has come out of his ears now and that he has calmed down. He asked me where my mom was and i told him that she was visiting a friend who was ill and living on her own and that as the woman who was currently looking after him was so nice and cooking his dinner and looking after him, it was worth being nice to her and letting her stay. He then went and told my mom that i had said that she could stay the night and he was ok with that.
I have no idea whether i have done the right thing but i was put on the spot and had to think quick. My husband is still with them and things are calm now but any advice on how to manage situations like this would be gratefully received. Thank you.
My dad was diagnosed with Vascular dementia and Alzheimers earlier this week, it wasn't a shock as he has been showing symptoms for a time now but it took quite a while to get him to go to the doctors.
He has been having periods of time when he doesn't know who my mom is and referring to her in the third person but these periods have been only occasionally and quite short when they do occur. However, so far today, since getting up, he has had no idea who my mom is and has asked her to leave before his wife gets back, asked for the house keys as he's going to sell the house and said that my mom will create problems in his marriage.
My mom phoned me and i spoke to my dad on the phone and he knew who i was straight away. He told me about the terrible situation that he was in with this other woman in the house and was none too happy. My mom was understandably beside herself about what to do and getting very upset.
I have a virus illness at the moment and didn't want to pass it on and make matters worse so my husband has gone over to set up their new tv and see how things are. My dad recognised my husband and has been chatting to him about the football etc but he still doesn't know who my mom is.
I have spoken to my dad again and he has said that some of the steam has come out of his ears now and that he has calmed down. He asked me where my mom was and i told him that she was visiting a friend who was ill and living on her own and that as the woman who was currently looking after him was so nice and cooking his dinner and looking after him, it was worth being nice to her and letting her stay. He then went and told my mom that i had said that she could stay the night and he was ok with that.
I have no idea whether i have done the right thing but i was put on the spot and had to think quick. My husband is still with them and things are calm now but any advice on how to manage situations like this would be gratefully received. Thank you.